Is it normal?

[Ashy2010]

Re: Is it normal?

@dreamMerchant

Thanx everybody for replying, really appreciated.

I said in my first post that i consider this demand “justified”. I know that at the time of Nikkah, woman can have right of divorce too, and lay down conditions regarding “mehar” etc. I was just curious that is it normal in our society to lay down such conditions before wedding? When it comes to rights of women, i am a big supporter.

However, the “reason” she gave, i consider it totally wrong. I can’t imagine marrying someone who is frankly telling me that she doesn’t trust me and she will ruin me in case i divorce (mess with) her. Though shes being practical but don’t you think she will be way more practical after marriage?

She is using her right if she is demanding this. But the way she puts it is strange and is creating bad feelings in you for her. Try to discuss your feelings with her and tell her that really would like both of you to work for a happy marriage and she should really reconsider her decision of marrying you if she doesn’t trust you. Afterall, trust is an important factor for marriage and if trust is lacking, its not a good start to the marriage.

If she would have put this demand by telling you that she wants her future to be secured because of high incidences of divorces these days and would try her level best to make the marriage work, it would have been better.