Ok, so here's my story, I got nikahfied a couple of months ago. It was an arranged thing, I didn't know the girl, but my family knew her. Khair so after the nikah, we met maybe once or twice and the extent of our interaction was me kissing her hand :=).
Khair, I had to come abroad for a couple of months and its been 3 months. We talk regularly on phone and I still have about 4-5 months before I can finally go back. The thing which has been bothering me that I miss her ALOT. I know it is cliché but I think it is seriously affecting my concentration. Everytime I lie down to sleep, or I am resting i.e. not busy in some work etc I al ALWAYS thinking about her. Looking at other couples makes me feel sad.
If I am with friends its alright, but if I am alone, I am always thinking about her. The yearning is so strong that it physically aches. I don't know what to do. I guess this has probably something to do with my not being involved in the proper sense with any girl before. Don't get me wrong, I have worked/studied alongsides some really cool girls and I did like one or two. But this thing is really different. Its literally like her face is there everytime I close my eyes.
Is this normal ? or am I being over-sensitive ? Any tips of how to cope with this ?
Nice post dude,
would it be any better if u were back home ?
Nikah (without rukhasti) is a nice thing. You know you have someone with you for rest of ur life. u r more than commited.
However it sucks if u rnt together (no rukhsati). When u getting married ?
After going through this phase, I think I can safely suggest to people getting married to try to minimize the temps d'attente between nikah and rukhsati. I guess this time is kinda bitter-sweet. Being in love + living away from ur love + autumn is a tough combination.
I can bet and recommend that the duration between Nikah and Rukhsati should be long as it gives you lot more time to understand each other and enhances love as well.
After Rukhsati, you will acknowledge, that I was right
God !! turns out, the immigration guys ARE infact demanding too many extra documents and it seems like its will take forever
Bhai it seems like app bohat pohance huwe buzurg hain… now can you please pray/wish that those immi guys give us the visa soon or I’m coming over with a chair …
I can bet and recommend that the duration between Nikah and Rukhsati should be long as it gives you lot more time to understand each other and enhances love as well.
After Rukhsati, you will acknowledge, that I was right
Girls like boys where as boys like girls. We have to fluff ourselves us cause ultimately guys like high heeled pansies with bows in their hair and makeup on and soft skin...
whereas girls like Ken-types. All fighting macho ruggidy things.
When a guy is in love he sees stars, where as a girl sees diamonds. Also, she is sooner distracted by her manicure.
