Is it normal ?

aqeel123 · October 27, 2009, 12:05am

Ok, so here’s my story, I got nikahfied a couple of months ago. It was an arranged thing, I didn’t know the girl, but my family knew her. Khair so after the nikah, we met maybe once or twice and the extent of our interaction was me kissing her hand :=).

Khair, I had to come abroad for a couple of months and its been 3 months. We talk regularly on phone and I still have about 4-5 months before I can finally go back. The thing which has been bothering me that I miss her ALOT. I know it is cliché but I think it is seriously affecting my concentration. Everytime I lie down to sleep, or I am resting i.e. not busy in some work etc I al ALWAYS thinking about her. Looking at other couples makes me feel sad.

If I am with friends its alright, but if I am alone, I am always thinking about her. The yearning is so strong that it physically aches. I don’t know what to do. I guess this has probably something to do with my not being involved in the proper sense with any girl before. Don’t get me wrong, I have worked/studied alongsides some really cool girls and I did like one or two. But this thing is really different. Its literally like her face is there everytime I close my eyes.

Is this normal ? or am I being over-sensitive ? Any tips of how to cope with this ?

Nice post dude,
would it be any better if u were back home ?

Nikah (without rukhasti) is a nice thing. You know you have someone with you for rest of ur life. u r more than commited.
However it sucks if u rnt together (no rukhsati). When u getting married ?

Jal_Pari · October 27, 2009, 10:57pm

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LOL@ unspoken and unwritten words of brotherhood.

Loved reading your post…it gives us girls here some hope that men are not completely made of stone when it comes to admitting such feelings

bigdaddy · October 28, 2009, 12:47am

You should buy yourself some panties from Victoria’s Secret or borrow some from funguy. I hear he wears silk laced ones.

snowy_winter · October 28, 2009, 7:37am

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^ Despite your recommendation, clearly based on your extensive personal experience, thanks but no thanks.

Reha · October 28, 2009, 7:55am

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Snowy, ignore him. He is just upset about everything, all the time.

Ysaghar · November 2, 2009, 1:36pm

I can bet and recommend that the duration between Nikah and Rukhsati should be long as it gives you lot more time to understand each other and enhances love as well.
After Rukhsati, you will acknowledge, that I was right

snowy_winter · December 30, 2009, 4:02pm

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God !! turns out, the immigration guys ARE infact demanding too many extra documents and it seems like its will take forever

Bhai it seems like app bohat pohance huwe buzurg hain… now can you please pray/wish that those immi guys give us the visa soon or I’m coming over with a chair …

Reha · December 30, 2009, 5:34pm

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LOL

Awww, dont worry! Inshallah she will be here soon enough and you guys will be together.

sweefs · December 30, 2009, 7:45pm

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it’s so cute it makes me want to puke!

PyariCgudia · December 30, 2009, 8:11pm

So basically, dating works.

kaun · December 30, 2009, 8:46pm

samb · December 30, 2009, 8:53pm

maulana snowy, I’m pretty sure that this thread is haraam… astagfirullah…

xjatti2khanx · December 30, 2009, 9:00pm

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^^^ eh??? what u on about ??

Yea_Boii · December 30, 2009, 9:04pm

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awwwwww shooo shweeettt..

if i was a woman, i’d be so wet right now..

paijee · December 30, 2009, 10:04pm

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Been there mate - its totally normal.

It’ll be worth it though!

Malika12 · December 30, 2009, 10:09pm

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Aww that’s just soooo sweet…she is one lucky girl!!!

paijee · December 30, 2009, 10:23pm

There a pelvic floor excercises that can put that right.

hitchki · December 31, 2009, 2:00am

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more proof that men are sappier than girls.

Girls like boys where as boys like girls. We have to fluff ourselves us cause ultimately guys like high heeled pansies with bows in their hair and makeup on and soft skin…

whereas girls like Ken-types. All fighting macho ruggidy things.

When a guy is in love he sees stars, where as a girl sees diamonds. Also, she is sooner distracted by her manicure.

cat-woman · December 31, 2009, 3:15am

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phone sex?

just kidding

snowy_winter · December 31, 2009, 6:13am