i agree with Gaia. and your gf shouldn’t “joke” around with anyone like that. long distant relationships are very hard and sometimes one of the partners starts to stray because they need their partners physical presence more than the other partner. where does this bhai of hers live?
Take It easy lover boy. You asked for it urself. So u see, people are more likely to criticize than puke an advice. N e ways... 5 - 6 years is an awful long time. Especially when one's abroad. Many things change... and are destined to. If I were you, i would perhaps not bring up saeed bhai whatever's name, Atleast for a while. There are too many uncertainties right now. So just chill and relax rather than go berserk.
i agree with the first part but not the second. i don't believe in relationships where both partners can't talk to each other about anything. communication is key in a healthy and stable relationship. you should be able to talk to your gf about anything and vice versa.
Why not?
First of all there's nothing wrong in talking to a friend [saeed bhai] at 3 am
and seond of all the thread starter is not her husband who should tell her what to do and what not to do....he can't restrict her from talking to someone.
umm..they've been committed for 4 years and plan to get married..
Why not? ** First of all there's nothing wrong in talking to a friend [saeed bhai] at 3 am**
and seond of all the thread starter is not her husband who should tell her what to do and what not to do....he can't restrict her from talking to someone.
r u kiddin me ? Wud it okay be for u if some gal calls ur hubby at 3 am calls him bahi and talks to him for an hour? do u even think saeed bahi calls her sister too ? I mean at that time ur REAL BRO wont call u and talk to u for an hour !
Thread opner is in a relationshipwith this gal for 4 years ... they r planning to get married..... If he cant restrict ehr from talkin to some random guy today, what makes u think after marriage she wud be okay with that ?
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if it was 3am in her time zone then YES it's a bad thing.
"bhai's" dont call their bhehn's in the middle of the night and talk til 3am in the morning.
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^ 
.................... Oh, not to mention the whole cousin thing, ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww........
Are you a guy? 'ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww' and your avatar do not match :P
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^ haahahaha
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lets stick to the topic here.
this is not a thread about cousin marriages nor about how young they are. If you want to start another thread on those issues feel free to... but lets keep that out of this thread. thanks
r u kiddin me ? Wud it okay be for u if some gal calls ur hubby at 3 am calls him bahi and talks to him for an hour? do u even think saeed bahi calls her sister too ? I mean at that time ur REAL BRO wont call u and talk to u for an hour !
Thread opner is in a relationshipwith this gal for 4 years ... they r planning to get married..... If he cant restrict ehr from talkin to some random guy today, what makes u think after marriage she wud be okay with that ?
Yeah I'd be fine. May be that girl really needed to talk to someone at that moment and Saeed bhai was awake and doing his studies or something.
First of all please stop making assumptions about my girl’s character. Neither does any of you know me nor her.
I don’t know what happened to me yesterday. I just got angry with her. Since few weeks it’s getting really hard for me. Everyday I just want to see her. Nothing more. I’m becoming “chir-chira” and I always get angry about “choti choti batein”. 
Now I’ve talked with her and everything is clarified. I’m as happy as I was the last 4 years with her and Inshallah both of us will also be happy in future. 
To be honest, I feel ashamed that how could I think such things about her. She is a really modest and nice girl. And she really tells me everything, that’s what she also said. If she would be up to something fishy than she would not have told me about the guy and what they talked and all.
I was 13 when I went to Pakistan for the first time. Both of us did alot of things together and at that time I just liked her as a friend (Since I did not know what Love is at that age). Then after two years my family was again planning to go to Pakistan. And I was wondering all the time how she would look like, whether she would remember me, etc.. At that point I realised that I’m falling in love with her or atleast that I’m attracted towards her because I was thinking about her all the time.
Later even before I could tell her since when I like her, she told me the same story, that she liked me, and when she got to know that we were coming to Pakistan she always thought about me and stuff.
So I admit instead of I LOVE her since 6 years I should have written I LIKE her since 6 years (and love her since 4 years).
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if i was in thread opener shoes, i will be offended.
again i appreciate the gal being honest though
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Its great that you have it now in the clear! :)
Hmmm happy for u and u must be feelin stupid for puttin this thread up 
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Exactly. I think it was shaitan (and a friend of mine) who were bringing those stupid ideas into my head. Hmm I think I will mind my friends advice in future concerning personal matters.
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My frnd if u r feeling bad for sharing ur personal life here then its good.
If u feelin bad coz u were offended ... then u shldnt .... its totally normal ... true love brings alot of possessiveness. :)
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Glad for both of you. :k:
Salam,
I called my gf yesterday at around midnight (as usual we always talk at night). We normally talk for some hours but yesterday I wasn't able so we just talked for like 20 minutes. Then after half an hour I got the opportunity to call her but her mobile was going busy. So I kept trying for around one hour. Finally I got her on the line at around 3 o'clock (so its almost morning!!). I asked her with whom she was talking for so long. She said with "Saeed Bhai" (some guy, no relative). Then I got angry and said "ok then keep talking to him. Khuda Hafiz" and hung up. Then she tried to call me, after 10 minutes I gave in and called back. She said "What happended? I'm sorry. Maaf kardein". I just said "Let's talk tomorrow". We both love each other since 6 years and are together since 4 years and we also plan to marry. I'm 19 and she's 18. She lives in PAK and I live abroad. So just tell me is it normal if your gf talks at around 3 o'clock to some other guy?? Would you get pissed off or am I over-reacting?
May be she was trying to keep Saeed Bhai awake for Fajay prayer. After leaving cricket saeed bhai has become very religious.
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the real concern should not be who she was talking to, but instead it should what was she discussing?
ps. app dono buchpan say he tharki hoo...come on ishq at the age of 12-13 is pathetic.
^lol
ps. app dono buchpan say he tharki hoo…come on ishq at the age of 12-13 is pathetic.
ha ha ha
