What's so early about it? You say that you can't interact with her, that it is haram and immodest to get to know her better, than what do you hope to achieve with this delay?
Sahar...I have not used the word haram...but what has put restrictions on us......we have to follow that..immodest is that..on the restaurants..KFC...Macdonalds..dating..and such cheap things....
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Regarding your initial question, I feel, as others have said, that you cannot truly be in love after just one interaction/meeting. What you feel in those first meetings is desire, attraction, infatuation, a crush. You may be in love -- but not with the girl -- rather the image of her you have created in your head. It's not about her at that point, but an imagined being that fulfills all of your ideals. This is a natural thing to happen. It becomes problematic only when we refuse to get to know the real person and instead impose these selfish ideals upon them (whether that is before or after marriage).
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Did your parents meet beforte marriage to understand each other ???
Did my parents..meet each other to understand each other before marriage???
90% of all of us..on GS..did thier parents before marriage..have long hour cells talks...dating...chaepness...Saudai Bazi....profits and losses*...heating* eyes **with each **other features for hours ..while sitting in in front of each other in a restaurant......!!!!
still..Alhumdullialh..these marriages are successful....
Just to tell..you its was not my first interaction....I have not given the deatil of all the scenario...something is behind the curtains also...!!! so..its not one interactions...probably ..the interactions...of 3 or more years....!!!
and probably..you also dont know about all the deatils i have given..They are even more...but i wll not gonna give them....
No..I am not so good..but I am neither so cheap to play with emotions of someone..specially a young girl...girls have very sensitive hearts and emotions..and i WILL NEVER do such 3rd class time passing things...
No doubt about it...they are mostly the statue of haya..shame..and womanish ego..and I am proud of them....
as long as the dosheeza's bhai divine light ki batti fuse na kar daen i say its okay.
:D
arai Peer Jee..karai na phir kuch....
Dam Durrod..
Dua Shua...
Taweez ganda....::::::::::D
I have never said anything or did anything to her so that i have to fear from her brother...Her respect..her honur...i kept it at every moment...during all years...neither..cell calls..neither datings..nor such other 3rd cass cheap scenario....
Sahar...I have not used the word haram...but what has put restrictions on us......we have to follow that..immodest is that..on the restaurants..KFC...Macdonalds..dating..and such cheap things....
What does that have to do with what I said? You said it's too early to speak to the parents, I'm asking what you're planning to do -- what makes right now too early? How will things change in the future?
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Did your parents meet beforte marriage to understand each other ???
Did my parents..meet each other to understand each other before marriage???
90% of all of us..on GS..did thier parents before marriage..have long hour cells talks...dating...chaepness...Saudai Bazi....profits and losses*...heating* eyes **with each **other features for hours ..while sitting in in front of each other in a restaurant......!!!!
still..Alhumdullialh..these marriages are successful....
Just to tell..you its was not my first interaction....I have not given the deatil of all the scenario...something is behind the curtains also...!!! so..its not one interactions...probably ..the interactions...of 3 or more years....!!!
and probably..you also dont know about all the deatils i have given..They are even more...but i wll not gonna give them....
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Again, you don't seem to be reading the responses. I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with an arranged marriage. I'm just telling you that what you are feeling is not deep love for her. My parents never claimed to be in love before getting married.
What does that have to do with what I said? You said it's too early to speak to the parents, I'm asking what you're planning to do -- what makes right now too early? How will things change in the future?
For the first time..I dared to expose my feelings to her....before that...we always remained ...in a state of blackout..you can say....now...things will autmatically find thier path...atleast...I have given my flower...the signal...now...its will be honour for me...if my cute flower..also give some fragrance ...in response....!!!! :)
arai yaar...ghat magnei paat baya...wala scene nahee....dheerai dheerai...:)
have you heard the song....haulai haulai....piyaar ka izahar karna hum sai tum....:)
Let me stand me on my foot..financially also...so that ..I can be able to give my** heart** ....everything....:)
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Again, you don't seem to be reading the responses. I'm not saying that there is anything wrong with an arranged marriage. I'm just telling you that what you are feeling is not deep love for her. My parents never claimed to be in love before getting married.
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Can you plz..give me some advice to make its depth more ?