Re: is it natural ....
sorry Mama...its not allowed in islam...simple....:)
you cannot even have a second glance on a girl.....i am not saying that i am very good muslim...but what islam has forbidden for us ..it is forbidden..we like it or not...lthe compuslsion remains compulsion.....:)
secondly.....i call it ...." black mark" on the name of love ....when both try to compromise...want to know needs and desires..its means ..thats not love..thats the calculator running in your brains..calculating...the pluses and minuses of your future life.....love is above every comprimise...every ...profits and loss...and every this and that....
love means ..you have to "sacrifice for other"...if not..then its not love its something other.....:)
DL, it most certainly IS allowed in Islaam its called marriage.
Attraction is a nice place to begin a marriage.
You too quickly judge and assume.
You also dont understand the concept of compromise. Compromise is a form of sacrifice.
An silly example but to illustrate the point: your beloved wife wants to go see her mother on her mothers birthday. But it also happens to fall on the same day as YOUR mother's birthday so you want to see yours. One will sacrifice a visit to a beloved parent OR you will both compromise and have shorter visits with both mothers.