Re: is it natural …
Peace again bro. (sign of) divine-light
It is not facing East or West that is righteousness … verily all places belong to Allah (SWT).
There is no Arab superior to nonArab nor nonArab superior to Arab no black superior to white nor white superior to black … except by conduct.
Islam does away with class systems. If we are 3rd class in the West, which I disagree with strongly that does not make us inferior, if you are 1st class in Pakistan that does not make you superior until you demonstrate humanity at every level. The fact that there is a class system in Pakistan proves that it is unIslamic.
You are only first class because you are probably non-Muhaajir, non-Ahmadi or non-Shia or non-Christian, non-female, probably taller than 5 foot 6 and generally fairer than the average male. You are probably from a more affluent family also. There are other people in Pakistan who are not 1st class citizens.
We are tested in our positions … if we are in the elite we should not be arrogant and if we are in the common then we should not have despair, it does not matter where you live in the world and Islam does not make distinctions between classes of people. So why should we?
Personally I don’t care if anyone in UK treats me badly because that hatred is in their own mind and rather than fearing it, I do du’a for them that Allah (SWT) gives them guidance. When we stand at the da’wah stall in town people ask us if we think that people in Paksitan will allow Christian tables to be set-up … we defend Paksitan because we know in some places it will be acceptable. We should defend each other not attack each other just because we live in different parts of the world … this is not what Islam teaches us.
Did you know one the richest people in the UK is a Christian Pakistani
http://www.bbc.co.uk/dragonsden/thedragons/james_caan.shtml
He is not a 3rd class citizen …
My last point … lalich bhi itna na ho ke hum dunyaprast ban jain, aur ghairat bhi itna na ho ke hum koshish se door hat jain.
As for the question … is it love … my answer again is yes it can be the first level of love, but until you intend to marry this girl you should continue treating her like a sister not like an article of your desire for she will recognise that you ‘fancy’ her from your behaviour with her. I know Paksitani culture very well Alhumdulillah it is not that my parents have not taught me and it is not that we do not visit and we have many Paksitani waaqif in UK also, and we preserve good cultural traits whilst living in the UK.
The people who write things on the walls in the UK are from the ignorant groups the people that we see and talk with most of the time are family members and professional people and they are very nice people, just come over one day on visit and see for yourself. But if it is a cash issue then I advise getting married before you start to travel and tour.