baby or whatever.... i would simply hate it........ chahay koi relation ho ya naa ho......... what happened in the past, is none of my business i believe, but since after i m in HIS life now......i will OBJECT!
THTS HOW I FEEL EXACTLY!
Women, always looking for a reason to fight ... ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
lol ^^ thts wat he said exactly
^very wrong!!
Yes i should re-phrase it, Women always have a reason to Fight, poor men.....ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh
THTS HOW I FEEL EXACTLY!
lol ^^ thts wat he said exactly
:)
Re: is it...healthy?
Okay, I would let the past go but correct me if Im wrong...
I dont see the point in holding onto such things at this point in his life?
Why hasnt he deleted them already?
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Jaanwar well done. Its about time women were educated on what they can get angry about and what they can't.
Listen up. Yes it is healthy for him to keep it. Why not? He was emotionally attached to someone, you can't rub that person out of existence. However you noticed, he gave you his password to check something for him. Do you not realise the level of trust he just gave you.
I may not speak for all guys, but guys in general are very particular about who can access what and where. Its like answering a phone. He wanted something, he couldn't get it himself. So he asked you. He didn't ask his sister, mother, room-mate or co-worker.
He also gave you the ability to respect his privacy. Which you obviously didn't. But that is your choice. You went around snooping in his inbox. For me if some one has my password they can read whatever they want. He may not be the same.
He may also be irritated with you, hey i asked her to do this one thing and she went snooping. Now she is questioning my loyalty to her and what not. Great thing this turned out to be. You see where I am going with this my dear?
Let me bang this into your head with a sledgehammer....I have been using it a bit these days. He is with you. Not with her. She is the bloody past. Get over it. And next time trust the man you are involved with or break up and give the guy well deserved freedom.
Pyari Se,
You can look at this scenario from many angles. First of all, I think you would be MORE SUSPICIOUS if your fiance kept you away from his email account as if it were the plague. If he were up to something, he would make an active effort to hide things from you, and he wouldn't have proposed to you. Usually, people are open with things when they dont have something to hide.
But at the same time, I understand your concerns. You're wondering why those emails are still in his account? How old are those emails? Are they recent or are they fairly old? If they're fairly old, then it could even be that he forgot to delete them. Some people are lazy about deleting their emails. Or forget to delete them. And when several months pass by, they dont' have the energy or time to go scrolling through their long list of incoming saved mails to delete something from long ago......even from an ex. It seems he has forgotten about his ex and her email otherwise he wouldn't have given you the password so easily like that.
And here's another scenario. He received emails from his ex when they were going out. He never deleted them. In the early stages of moving on, he kept the emails as a memory. And then he moved on from her and found you. In the process of being with you, he forgot about ex's emails. Soon, many emails from various people started piling on top of the ex's email. And he was too lazy to sift through his emails and delete the unnecessary ones. And that's how u came upon them.
Sometimes people like to keep gifts and other keepsakes from their exes. It doesn't necessarily imply infidelity. He obviously trusts you enough to use his password and go through his email account. It's not like he angrily barred you from it or made excuses to keep you away from it.
But like other posters suggested, if it's still bugging you, then talk to him about it. Are you already engaged? Has he officially become your fiance? If so, congratulations.
If it's still bugging you, talk to him about. If you guys are planning to spend the rest of your lives together, there needs to be good communication between you both. If your fiance is being faithful and is acting NORMAL around you and not shady, then this email shouldn't be an issue. Everyone has a past and he shouldn't be penalized for that. What matters is how is current commitment with you is going.
Okay, I would let the past go but correct me if Im wrong...
I dont see the point in holding onto such things at this point in his life?
Why hasnt he deleted them already?
May be he is lazy to do that, I myself haven't deleted any emails from my inbox, sinece yahoo and gmail are providing with unlimited space and options to search the mails, why should i be bothered to do that, he can be little bit unorganized and thats all. why to make an issue out of it?
Re: is it...healthy?
I guess its a matter of perspective. I mean, if girls did that there would be divorces left, right and center.
But if a guy keeps his past memories with him, we hear "Get over it, you're not allowed to be mad at us for this!" or "we're too lazy to make you happy, its yahoo's fault for giving us all that space!".
In a relationship, you're only going to get what you give. So, if this is the example you want to set...by all means go right ahead. However, you lose the right to complain when you find cards and such in your wife/fiance's possession that were gifts from an ex.
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Pyari,
If your heart is still at unease....talk to your fiance about it.
I guess its a matter of perspective. I mean, if girls did that there would be divorces left, right and center.
But if a guy keeps his past memories with him, we hear "Get over it, you're not allowed to be mad at us for this!" or "we're too lazy to make you happy, its yahoo's fault for giving us all that space!".
In a relationship, you're only going to get what you give. So, if this is the example you want to set...by all means go right ahead. However, you lose the right to complain when you find cards and such in your wife/fiance's possession that were gifts from an ex.
Oh no i really don't think about it that much, i have given enough confidence to my wife that she shares almost every thing with me, if i found something about her accidentally then again i shouldn't be bothered about it, like may be she have a very good reason for not to tell me and let her select the right time to let me know about it if she wants me to know.
Quran says that, one should not draw conclusions about others as it may make you a sinner, todays world we muslims consider quran a bore book with few stories of ancient times in it, tends to learn nothing from the book and keep on saying that WE ARE RIGHT, WHAT EVER WE DO, HOW SILLY IT MAY SOUND, STILL WE ARE RIGHT.
Yes i should re-phrase it, Women always have a reason to Fight, poor men.....ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh
now let me make it very right, and it is:
woman always fight on a reason, and reason is always given by her man!!
:biggthumb
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^ur so right:smooth:
now let me make it very right, and it is: woman always fight on a reason, and reason is always given by her man!! :biggthumb
hahaha TRUE THT! i deffinately AGREE
Yes in a way lol! our familys have been talking alot lately and his mom has dropped her drama and has reasoned with his decision MASHALLAH! We are planned to get Nikkahed this summer InshAllah 
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but it bothered me bcaz we are about to start a new path in our life and keep the past?i just didnt understand why he would still have them if he forgot abt her? however he FINALLY deleted them yday!! =) 
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Awwwwwwwwwww...wonderful!
Aaaw.....that's great. Isn't it funny how many times we get to so worked up and worried about things that you soon find out didn't require the stress? LOL. I've been through that often. You must feel so relieved. Him deleting the e-mails without a fuss shows he cares about you. Like many people, he must not sort his incoming mail folder often. I'm glad things are better. Best wishes, Pyari:)
