is it...healthy?

pyari_se · February 8, 2009, 9:28am

im curious to know…what if, you are going through ur fiance/bf or gf email and come across old emails from their EX and they are still saved as “BABY” as their contact name… IS IT HEALTHY? Does it still mean theres still have something for tht person…?

Dubaiwali · February 8, 2009, 9:30am

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so you only CALL someone you love baby? that means if someone calls me baby they love me? :S

pyari_se · February 8, 2009, 9:32am

lol huh im confused.

Dubaiwali · February 8, 2009, 9:41am

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lol what is there to get confused about..

i just want to know is baby word very personal? if someone calls me baby that means they love me?

pyari_se · February 8, 2009, 9:50am

ohh ok lol well...not exactly. im talkin abt if ur fiance/bf/gf still emails frm their EX and has them saved BABY(like a cute name u a bf gf husband or w.e) IS IT STILL HEALTHY!?

Jaanwar · February 8, 2009, 9:59am

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^ And why would you want to stalk your fiance?

pyari_se · February 8, 2009, 10:10am

its not stalking... i was looking 4 this 1 email tht HE TOLD ME to find on his account and i came across those other emails...

Jaanwar · February 8, 2009, 10:15am

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^ thats even better. Coz in this case, he would not have given you his password if he had something to hide unless he is utterly stupid - which I am sure he is not. Hope it makes sense?

I believe it is always better to discuss such issues/doubts with that person instead of sulking and stressing out.

Capiche?

pyari_se · February 8, 2009, 10:18am

we did talk abt it....all he said was its the past let it be...he was like hesistant to talk 2 me abt it

Jaanwar · February 8, 2009, 10:27am

Of course he will be hesitant, you asking him about his ex "baby" would perhaps be the last thing he would be expecting.

If I had skeletons in my closet, I wouldnt give you the key. If he had stuff he didnt want you to see, he wouldnt have asked you to go through his emails.

Well, he should have deleted those emails - thats another point.

Dont bring doubts into your relationship at the kick-off phase. There is a LONG way to go - start it with faith, or drop it.

Gina · February 8, 2009, 10:33am

If he was uncomfy he wudn't have given u the password.. if it was the past let it stay there..don't corner the poor chap.. :)

kurripunjaban · February 8, 2009, 1:09pm

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i agree with all the points above. if he had something to hide he would have either deleted them or not given you the password.

meena_s · February 8, 2009, 1:12pm

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baby or whatever.... i would simply hate it........ chahay koi relation ho ya naa ho......... what happened in the past, is none of my business i believe, but since after i m in HIS life now......i will OBJECT!

waterfall99 · February 8, 2009, 1:13pm

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yes,if there was something to hide,he wouldn't have given you the password.

hanibal · February 8, 2009, 1:32pm

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Women, always looking for a reason to fight ... ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

meena_s · February 8, 2009, 1:39pm

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^very wrong!!

Chavy · February 8, 2009, 4:06pm

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Baby is an affectionate term, used when you are romantically attached.

I am suspicious, if it's in the past why hasn't he erased the emails? If he is your fiancé why hasn’t he been open and honest about his past relationships? It’s a question of sincerity and fidelity.

If the issue is playing on your mind it should be discussed to erase your doubts. If he’s avoiding the conversation then this will make you suspicious.

Forgive him about his past misdemeanours. However trust may only take a moment to break but much longer to regain.

You fiancé is rather inept, he should have erased the emails long ago.

Straight_up · February 8, 2009, 4:10pm

LOL @ the question. Not sure about it being healthy or unhealthy but here’s an evil idea: why don’t you just rub this “baby” thing in his face for your entire life and never let him forget it??? :aq:

kaun · February 8, 2009, 4:16pm

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I dont think this should be an issue, as a lot of ppl keep things from their past and probably there are certain things special to him that he doesnt want to let go, your best bet would be to talk to him and str8up ask him about them. Communication is the key in any relationship !!!

waterfall99 · February 8, 2009, 4:36pm

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Yes,i don't find anything wrong with this if people want to keep things from the past,afterall,those things were a part of their lives as well.