....is it fair???

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right so i was reading these wedding threads..and karma bridal thread…and i realised how much money ppl actually spend on wedding outfits…surprisingly…and thats only for one day
i know its ur big day bla bla etc etc…
but is it fair? and on the other side ppl in ur back countries ..they r actually starving…nt even earning 100 rupes a day..which is even less than a pound!!

do u think its fair???
p.s am nt pointing out anyne or sayng anythng bad abt anyne ..so no personal attacks plzzzzzz

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it is sad

ppl shud atleast think once b4 buying a dress

i is ur wedding so ?? it doesnt mean u cross all the limits and spend loads of money on outfits and u know ur not gonna wear it ever again

so basically its a waste of money

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just curious how much did u spend on ur wedding outfit,its their money they can do watever they want

;) Choose A Profession 4 Above Person ;)
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no its nt like that...u shuld atleast think abt all those ppl...
marna nai he apne eik din???
well thats a sick thinking

and i spent only 200 pounds on my wedding outfit...i had only civil wedding...

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okie y wuld u do? that y did nt u wear sumthing that u can get for 100 pounds n give the other hundred in zakat to pakistanians,im sure 100 pounds wuld be alot for starving people in pakistan

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Citrine has a point here. I understand that its a big day but how about having others be part of your big day by getting their dua-ain.

If you are rich, go ahead, spend as much, but make a pledge that if not all, you will give 50% of the same amount to the poor.

In some Baloch families, when they get married, they make sure that they have someone poor they know (could be family member, neighbor, servant), get married at the same time, part of all the ceremonies.

One baloch wedding that I attended, had this Baloch guy and his driver getting married in same ceremony, and all the expenses were paid by this baloch guy. They were wearing equal quality clothes.

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trust me i gave more than 1000 pounds in zaakt and sadka...and sent that money to pak...and that was my own saving

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Its easy to point fingers at the person spending big money on something s/he waited for their entire life. The truth is you don't know diddly-squat about what his/her charity habbits are. S/He may be giving out twice as much more in donations then what s/he spends on his/her big day. The fact of the matter is, it's their money. What you said can be said about anything you spend money on, regardless of the amount. For some folks, its always going to be too much spent unwisely and for some, its going to be worth while.

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well first thing first..am nt point out at anyone.....
and secondly hath halka rakho in everythng....

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When Citrine is right she is right.

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I wasn't saying that you were pointing fingers. I was talking in general. Also, define "halka." You missed my point. The defintion of Halka will vary from person to person. Halka haath may be $1 million spent on a wedding for one person but it would be only $10,000 for another. How does anyone know if he is NOT thinking about the starving people in Africa when he spends 1 million dollars in a wedding. For all we know, he may be sending 2 million in donations at the same time. Again, speaking hypothetically here.

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Citrine I know where you're coming from but if someone has the money then why not :) I won't say anything else before everyone starts bashing me with things like you snob etc etc. However, we must not forget to support the needy too :)

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haath halka rakhnay ke saath saath jab donation do to is tarah kay aik haath se do to doosray haath ko bhee khabar na ho.

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I agree with ASif

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well im talking abt middle class ppl here..and im sure most of us r middle class ppl....
so i doubt that they r sending 2 million dollars/pounds in donations/charities...

yea may be one million altogether for wedding..but hell nt for a dress...tobba

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lol ur rubbing my bak nw..im nt showing off anythng really…
i was telling her actually..coz she was telling me to gt it done for 100 and send the other 100 for donation/zakat whtevr..
so i was tllng her that i hve sent as much as i culd..nd i hvnt really gvn any exact amount here:snooty:

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It doesn’t matter how much money one has but yeah I think it’s stupid wasting a ridiculous amount of money on a wedding dress. The highest I would pay is probably 2-3 lakhs for a bridal outfit but not 10 lakhs :cb:

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mkd shhhssshh:snooty::stuck_out_tongue:

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:cb:

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If you go above and beyond what you can afford than thats wrong and a completely different problem. That is not what I thought you were talking about though. Spending money that you don't have is not wise, no doubt. But again thats a different issue all together.