Well guys and gals I am new at this so you have to forgive me if something is wrong. My topic is that is it bad to tell someone you love them. I am not talking about mom or family members but someone from the opposite sex. I don’t see the harm in it since it is part of human nature ro develop these feelings. But when are you supposed to know if if is true love or not?
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badpak :)
thats a very complicated question ......and seriously no one can tell u when ur in love......that u will figure out urself :)
as for the telling part :)
hmm dont know ......depends on the situation :)
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I think if you really love someone, you should tell them cause otherwise they are never going to know and then chances are you mite lose em.
As for telling when u r really in love, I guess there is a moment of revelation when your feelings are bared before your eyes.
But then again, love is not a very simple thing. Every case is different so u can't even draw a conclusion based on other pplz experiances.
Its not a bad thing to tell them you love them. I suppose it depends how you tell them or what you do. Its no good keeping them in the dark while others know (except for the people you trust, like close family and/or friends - depending on the person obviously). Thats being dishonest if you keep it from them. Others could make jokes out of it. You will have to decide whether or not the person can handle it as well.
Well theres no one answer to "Is it true love or not?" I would probably guess that if you think its totally wrong, and you begin to loose yourself, your sleep, and lots of time has passed, then I would suggest you draw your own conclusions. :)
Dear Badpak,
It is really disgusting to say that to someone. Please don’t ever make that mistake. Just be happy and live your life. Telling someone you love them can lead to things that you really don’t want to know. It can actually be harmful to your health. You see, there is only so much love in our body, and if we use it
immoderately, it diminishes over time. I will say save as much as you can, and use it when you really have to. Like when you are 80 year old and need help going to the bathroom. Say “I love you hon”, and there you go.
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Hi badpak,
I don't know that there is a right answer to your question, but these are just a few of my thoughts. Sometimes we love someone, and want to tell them, but telling them will change the relationship with them, no doubt, for better or worse. If you want to take the risk, and perhaps gain a better relationship with that person, then I say go for it. But be prepared that you may not get the response you want, and may end up messing up the relationship you already have with that person.
On the bright side, there are some signs that can help you figure out how the other person feels. Usually, because you are so deep into the situation, its best to ask an unbiased person who knows you both. Saying "I love you" is easier said then done... so if you do it, I'd say you are a brave person.
Also, another word of encouragement, if you say it and your friend doesn't say it back, don't fret.. sometimes it takes long for someone to say it back, but if they like you, then your chances are good :)
In the worse case scenario, where that person may not feel the same way back, I'm sure you would have at the least flattered them and brought a smile to their face.
hey,
Its a really difficult topic ehh. Well, I would say if you can tell then you should tell but first gotta find out from inside whether its a true feeling or not. Ok, how do you know it?? Well, you know yourself better and your heart and your brain too, so if you can't figure something out, you can always ask your two fellows who are always with you (i mean your brain and your heart). Ask yourself some questions like, why and what?? If you think that answers are not quite satisfactory and if you think that they don't have any reall feelings or purity in them than my dear I would say that its not in love.
Anyway, we all are different and we all have think different so judge yourself by your own (sometimes you have to do that) and find your answer cuz as Nisha said, every case is different but sometimes it might be just a bachpana..(you know what i mean)
Anyway, wish you luck..
"There are two ways of spreading light; to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it."
Badpak...salam-wala-kum...well let me tell you and all others, i dont believe in love and mohabat,but if I ever start loving/liking someone,I will not hesitate to tell that person I like you and love..I am a very straight forward person.....
allah hafiz
dil..dilseee
Salam everyone,
hey dilsee jee you might be right I do believe in that stuff but only 50% or may be more than that but I always try keep away from such trouble some thing. Actually, I've heard several weird things about love and its side effects and I don't want to get them you know. I've also heard that its sometimes difficult to tell the person that you love him/her but, as you said you are a state forward person so, we all will see about that.. ;)
[This message has been edited by Kehkashan (edited June 17, 1999).]
Kehkashan salam wala kum..
You are right..I have also heard so many nonsense thing about love/mohabat..that is the reason I dont believe in it,but at the same time if I ever think or like someone,i will tell her,because i dont wont to keep my love in the heart and see someone else taking her in the doli and I am still thinking of her,also i dont believe in loving and changing the character,if I love love one girl and make her your idel....no playing around....as i have seen other character,who keeps changing like light bulbs....
dil..dilseee
Well Everyone! Thank you for your replies on this subject. They were very interesting. I just don't believe in some of them. I believe in love and I am against everyone who doesn't like DILSE and KEKHESHAN. I am sorry if I have mispelled one of your guys names. But Love is something that is part of nature. IT is something that happens over time. Even animals, who don't have a lot of thinking power believe in love in a sense. People who do not believe in love are hiding from themselves and others. They are the actors because they are acting to be someone they aren't.
badpak.....do what u think is rite in the present situation! :)
Salam,
Well, thanks badpak, but about the acting thingie as someone(Shakespeare) has said
"All the world a stage and all the men and women are merely players"..
So, don't you think that we all are actors?
some people act willing(may be they like to act or may be just to make fool of themselves or others) and somepeople are forced to act.. Don't you think so...??
Well, this is what we call life ehh
Anyway, cathya later ...
Noooo..it's not bad all.
I love someone :)
You should tell someone you love them in a certain condition. First you give that person signals without telling then you love them. If you also feel that this person also loves and she has given you signals then you should tell her that you love her. I think this is the most fool proof way without getting hurt.
dear Nisha!
That true whay you said. Otherwise you will miss the chance you could have as living with her (marriage), so it is better for you say openly and direct from your heart that you really love here, badpak boy. i usually do that. the girl usually get happy when i say that, believe me.
Well Kiki baji, I don't agree with you. The only one who are actors are the one who don't have anything inside that they like about themselves. I am assuming that might be you. We act ourselves in certain situations. For instance, if someone had to choose between two parties one with someone closer than the other, one would go with the closer one. He might act and go to another one to gain populatiy but it isn't himself. Also the ones who act are the ones who feel really insecure about themselves. I know tha tI don't act. I make decisions and do things not so I can be like someone else but because it makes me happy and that is what makes our idedntity. SHAR HAQ I like your fool proof method. When I find someone I will use it. Shamas, I don't think every girl would feel happy if someone told them that. For instance, if the girl has no feelings for you then she might be put on the spot. I know of a few girls that if they don't have those feelings for you than they won't even look at you or talk to you if you admit that you love them.
i would only tell the person im married to that i love them.
some guys have told me they really like me and some even that they love me and i think they get hurt when i tell them i dont feel the same. if you are going to tell someone, be prepared for any type of response. dont get bitterrrrrr. a lot of times telling this to someone risks a good friendship. but them some people like the relief it brings to tell whats on their mind. sorry if i make no sense whatsoever. im new at this.
Learn to love yourself, then learn to love one-another
I think if you love someone, tell them. There are two kinds of love, the romantic kind and the love you have for your family.
Let's start with the family kind. In our culture, we are raised in such a way that parents don't express their love in words and vice versa. They show it, they prove it, but they never say it. Some mothers might but most of the time it just doesn't happen. I think that is sad. I'm 23 and have never told my parents how much I love them and care for them, I show it, but I don't say it. If they die tomorrow, I will have to live the rest of my life knowing that I never told them just how much I love them. Unfortunately, that is a reality that hits people when it's too late.
Now, let's get down to Romantic Love. If you love someone, romantically, by all means, tell them. But before you do that, be as sure as you can that you DO love them and are not just horny. Unfortunately, in our culture, sexuality is so repressed that when members of the opposite sexes come in contact, there is a lot of sexual tension. These people are in lust and are infatuated with each other which they interpret as love. Once they DO get together, and are sexually satisfied, they discover that they don't necessarily like the person, let alone love them.
Some people even say that they love the other person so that they can get them into bed, a very old tactic.
So my friends, this is one of those questions that is hard to answer. It is a judgement call.