if one independent educated professional feminist young woman who found someone on her own (he approached her actually), she began to like him and made plan with him, to be married to him and live happily ever after.
any thoughts?
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Dushwari, its a sin.. end of discussion.
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yeah it is..
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its only a sin, if the person stops responding in kind, and even then its still not a sin, as it is unkind, or perhaps even a crime on the part of the one not responding in kind!
but for the one merely discovering and feeling what is only human to feel...no it is not a sin. It is infact having a heart, that others are not often as fortunate to have! but i suppose when u have a heart that big, it is harder for another to steel but when some clever soul does steel a heart as big as yours, then make sure they play for keeps because otherwise the bigger the heart the bigger the hurt.
so is it a sin to love, is it a crime to want to be loved...no! but is is it wrong to have loved and left when one should and could have stayed, i think yes!
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jeez...there is nothing wrong with finding a spouse...you can meet people, you can choose someone on your own. Islam promotes marriage and wants people to be happy...end of story.
according to aruling i read- It is better to marry someone you meet and like rather than NOT marry them, have an arranged marriage and 'pine" away for the love you met...according to that scholor that created more fitna in the community...
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can you plz. send some islamic reference..hadees..quran and fuqhas rulings in this regard...thanyou...
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There is no sin if nothing is hidden. If your family is aware and agrees with a marriage. It should be a joyous occasion.
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why does an independent, educated, professional and feminist woman need to ask this question anyways?
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sheesh ....whats to think about anyway?
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why an independent, educated, professional and feminist woman is sooo weak ..tht she can t take this minor decision of her LIFE ...then obviously she is not independent I guess .....may be she is independent but scared of her family , father bro and mom ...and not afraid of Allah Almighty ..
BUT I think If u r independent then its ur Life.. Do what u want to do..Let others do what they want ...DO mistakes again and again until u think tht now u r really matured and independent enough and strong enough to take decisions and live with consequences ....
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Miss Dushwari....
i've been reading ur threads but i chose not to give my thoughts.. but now i guess i must say something...... every other person goes through which ur going throught at the moment and every person thinks that their pain and suffering is the greatest of all times......but the thing is...its just a matter of time..... the more u think about this issue the more u'll get upset ....ofcourse its not 100% possible to control ur thoughts but ...one can always give it a shot.
Most of the time we dont wanna let go these particular issue cuz we wanna feel pitty for our self and make our selves look like a victim ......its a very wrong approach but every body doest it........ i'm a guy i went through the same thing and i made the same mistakes too...but i made my self.. to get out of that sh*t hole...cuz It wasnt worth it.Nobody can help u unless u r ready to make a change ....Follow the golden rule of life HELP YOUR SELF......... later down the road ..believe me or not theres gonna be a time possibly when u'll laugh at this current situation.......so take a chill pill..... ur making ur self miserable ....for someone who doesnt care.
Think about it...is it worth it ??? i guess not.
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Mauli,
thanks for attending to my posts.
every one knows, it is not pity that i am after.
eliciting a sense of consensus, with a hope of unbiased attitude and behavior is what is called for, here.
there is nothing pitiable about honestly committing, is there?
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we live in the year 2007...times have changed, it's no sin to marry someone of your choosing and spending the next 60 years of your life with someone that you love and actually want to live the next 60 years of your life with!!!
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It is not a sin rather a crime. Feminists deserve nothing, no love, marriage, diamonds and Toyota Carola. Go back to venus…
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if everythin went 2 plan den no its not
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true love and respectful bonding can actually be simply the care in the eyes,
that is all wanted.
no diamonds, no nothing, but him.
stop calling feminists bad.
had ur own sister will get hurt then u will know,
why it is important to stand for women’s rights and dignity.
& do not ever misconstrue Islam and its teachings, or quranic verses and hadiths, to take a hike from double standards of bad kind of males.
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Only love and care in his eyes,
Yeah, than why don’t the feminists merry a chaprasi,
he can give you all the love you want,
Bari ai double standard dikhane wali. 
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man with a plan mujeh aap se yeh umeed nahi thi
:disappointed smiley:
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Sorry for the delayed response shweetdreamz becuase I just suffered a HEAR ATTACK. Kitna emotional torture du gi?
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emotional torture is a side effect of feminism on mard hazraat like yourself :p