Is it a good idea to tell ur wife about ur past ?

being best friends with your partner doesn't have anything to do with this situation, it has to do with ME and what I want. anyway, i'm not going to be yakking in my husbands ears, telling him something he doesn't want to hear. but i value honesty in a relationship and when i ask my husband, i expect him to tell me, and when he tells me, i'm sure he'll be wondering the same thing about me. and who's talking about 2nd or 3rd choice? that's not always the case.