IS is Fair to Assume about a desi Girl?

Lifestyle Relationships
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I have a friend who is in his thirtees. Lovely, handsome but shy. Due to work and family commitments he could not marry. Now he is the only unmarried one in our circle of friends. In many gtg, topic ultimately turns to his marriage. And then how to find a match and assess a match etc.

So this came up.

In this day and age, Is a desi muslim girl expected/assumed to be a virgin?

Or should a person who wants to know should ask the question?

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I don't think it matters where you have been, it matters where you are going.

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If it's a real priority the person should ask imo.. the potential isn't obligated to answer but it's a bit naive to just assume nowadays..

I agree with the above poster but everyone has their own preferences and as long as they aren't unreasonable it's fair enough..

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Most of the muslim women I know are either virgin-virgins, or technical-virgins. Most men I know are only technical virgins or non-virgins.

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Call me old fashioned, but yes - I really believe you can expect that. Equally from both men and women. Maybe it also depends on your social circles?

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NVM

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One who's done other 'stuff' but not the act itself maybe?

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this thread shows up as 6 replies 0 views. technical virgin is kinda the same deal..

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Does it count if you are a virgin by choice, or because you are not desirable.

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you never know about anyone.

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My friends from back home tell me that a lot of virgins back home are doing it all the time it depends on if the relevant people find out, honesty is not our strong suite ask to your hearts content say but will you get the truth?

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Girls can get those hymen repairs done anyways so what's the point.
I can already see where the thread is going.

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During the times that we are living in, it may be harder to "believe" that both Muslim guys and girls will remain virgin for long. But within our families and community, the "expectation" to remain virgin is still there. The girls could also doubt that your friend, being a guy in his thirties, is a virgin. Whether they question him is another issue. If your friend is really concerned about this issue, then he should just ask the girl/s he's considering for marriage. This would be the more practical thing to do as opposed to debating the rhetorical question of society's expectation of Muslim girls....which won't get him anywhere; aisay sawal ka koi faida nahi. He's not going to marry all the girls in society, so it's best to only concern himself with the girl/s he's contemplating marriage with. Just my 2 cents and I agree with Ethan, I dread the direction this thread may head towards.

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it would be a bit creepy if you ask her like ''so you virgin?" lol. Go along the lines "have you been in a relationship before?" and then go from there. But this leaves the possibility of one night stand though

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I think so.

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About 90% of Pakistani girls are virgins(according to my head) of which 40% are only technical virgins and the rest non-virgins.

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I wonder, why this question always come from men (mostly desi)? is it because there is no way to check the virginity of a man?

Secondly, If a person remained virgin until his/ her marriage as for the fear of ALLAH, he/she should expect ajar from ALLAH for this rather that start doubting/ asking if his/her partner is a virgin.

Thirdly, as a lot of people have said, there are far more important things than virginity. Scroll through life1, how many threads you see that revolve around this issue?

Get a life and grow up. Thanks

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Women are way more sheltered in our culture than men, so in this case, I'd be questioning your guy friend's virginity more than a woman's.

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Assumed - no
Expected - yes

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If it is important to the guy, then ask. HE SHOULD ASK HER before marriage. you'd be surprised at how many desi girls are actually experienced and are non-virgins. same for guys.