Re: Is hitting ur wife allowed in Islam
Our people have come up with a million interpretations of what has been said in Islam about a lot of things, to suit individual needs/desires. There wont be a lot of people who would stay within the bounds of Islam when it comes to hitting one's wife - and many other matters. There are so many who would quote an ayat or hadeeth with their very own interpretation to justify their actions.
I believe it has more to do with your upbringing, the way you see your elders treating women. For some people it is a matter of mesculine pride to treat their women like chit. Poor upbringing, disturbed childhood, maybe other reasons.
Woman - be that wife, sister, mother - should be treated with respect. Only a testically challenged (is that even a word?) man would hit a woman. And then on the other side, woman should respect the man the way she is respected. And she should not put a man in that position where he loses it - an example would be husband walking in on a cheating wife - which I mentioned in some other thread as well - and this is when I would totally lose it. Works both ways, I say if a woman walks in on her cheating husband, she has every right to shoot the chithead in the back of his head.