I too feel like saying to her to just get out of this as he has lied soooo many times to her
but i guess she is thinking about her unborn child, she has a good support network at home if she was to just leave him
**she won't benefit the unborn child by staying together at any cost. the child will also be subjected to undesirable situations that will arise in future. as you said, she has a good support system in place at home, it's best to leave him NOW...he deceived her and it's NOT worth staying with him anymore.
i sympathize with the lady and the baby who has yet to arrive. May Allah make it better for her and her baby...aameen **
Isn't polygamy illegal in the UK? She could get him into lots of trouble if she chooses that path, or if he gives her problems if she wants to leave. Really have no advice as it is a massively complicated situation, where like queer mentioned, everyone loses.
Isn't polygamy illegal in the UK? She could get him into lots of trouble if she chooses that path, or if he gives her problems if she wants to leave. Really have no advice as it is a massively complicated situation, where like queer mentioned, everyone loses.
I think they only really get caught out if they trying 'legally' marrying both women. They cant really stop u from having a nikaah but i sppose you can only ever declare one of them as your wife when it comes to legal matters.? Duno i often hear of men who have a few wives over here in the uk
Sister, if the husband is saying he verbally divorced her over the phone, then the divorce is valid. If she (your friend) has any doubt, then why don't she ask him again and clear this up?
Divorce over the phone is valid and a man does not need any document or witnesses to issue a divorce. So, if he really did divorce her (1st wife), then the first wife is divorced, regardless of the fact if she's pregnant or not.
Personally, I would get him, his father, the first 'wife', my parents, and an Imam in one room and not let anyone leave until there are clear answers on the table.
If my husband refused to do that, than I would move towards a divorce, even if I was prego.
In order for his wife to come to the uk he would have had to apply for a visa for her; send papers over, and there must have been communication between both husband and first wife. And im sure he must have gone to the airport to pick his wife up (I'm sure the spouce needs to be present?). It's against the law to be married to two wives in the uk, unless of course one has a nikkah and the other a civil marriage....for the first wife to be granted a visa there must have been a civil marriage done, which suggests ur friend has only had a nikkah. Point being the husband has been lying from day one...
If he could hide his first marriage from his wife before their marriage, then it is very much likely that, he may be cheating on her again with his first wife. Didn't he give her reasons why he had to hide his first marriage from her? I wonder how could she even forgive him for that!!
Dude is lieing.. !!!! Like Mjoe says.. how did she come over without his consent..
In order for his wife to come to the uk he would have had to apply for a visa for her; send papers over, and there must have been communication between both husband and first wife. And im sure he must have gone to the airport to pick his wife up (I'm sure the spouce needs to be present?). It's against the law to be married to two wives in the uk, unless of course one has a nikkah and the other a civil marriage....for the first wife to be granted a visa there must have been a civil marriage done, which suggests ur friend has only had a nikkah. Point being the husband has been lying from day one...
I spoke to my friend today and she said that she confronted him last night and he said that it's all bull
and that he has not gone no way near her and said he is going to instruct a solicitor tomorrow for the legal taalaq and have her sent back home
and the only reason he didnt before because his parents said that they could get in trouble by the law for bringing her here without his consent
but because people are making up lies and is hurting my friend he is going to have to take that chance to prove he is speaking the truth.
My friend said she will give him this last chance to sort the legal taalaq out and said she wants to also speak with the first wife
so hopefully it works out for her , thankyou everyone for the advice she really appreciated it ( i told her i asked on here )
The most respect I developed in this whole story is to the family of that guy who are 100% supporting the first wife and brought her from Pakistan to live with them
The lady (your friend) should talk to the dad of the guy as he looks like the one with some character. The hubby is an a**hole for sure.
I spoke to my friend today and she said that she confronted him last night and he said that it's all bull
and that he has not gone no way near her and said he is going to instruct a solicitor tomorrow for the legal taalaq and have her sent back home
and the only reason he didnt before because his parents said that they could get in trouble by the law for bringing her here without his consent
but because people are making up lies and is hurting my friend he is going to have to take that chance to prove he is speaking the truth.
My friend said she will give him this last chance to sort the legal taalaq out and said she wants to also speak with the first wife
so hopefully it works out for her , thankyou everyone for the advice she really appreciated it ( i told her i asked on here )
She should set a time limit for him to divorce or he might keep making excuses, putting it off..
If he has to do taalaq he obviously lied and married her and that in itself is pretty low..
True the father has been great for taking in the first wife but he is no great guy he is the most ‘gatiya’ and vile person i have ever heard of
I say this because he couple of months ago came round to his son’s house thinking he was at work and shouted some really nasty and rude comments
that you would think a man with daughters would think twice before saying…
I spoke to my friend today and she said that she confronted him last night and he said that it's all bull
and that he has not gone no way near her and said he is going to instruct a solicitor tomorrow for the legal taalaq and have her sent back home
and the only reason he didnt before because his parents said that they could get in trouble by the law for bringing her here without his consent
but because people are making up lies and is hurting my friend he is going to have to take that chance to prove he is speaking the truth.
My friend said she will give him this last chance to sort the legal taalaq out and said she wants to also speak with the first wife
so hopefully it works out for her , thankyou everyone for the advice she really appreciated it ( i told her i asked on here )
She should set a time limit for him to divorce or he might keep making excuses, putting it off..
If he has to do taalaq he obviously lied and married her and that in itself is pretty low..
I said the same to her to give him the end of the week to have a solicitor instructed, she was told that even though you have given verbal taalaq
( which he says he did ) you have to get a solicitor to give a written one by solicitor to show to home office that your marriage has not worked out.
I still think everyone should be manipulated, like they're going grocery shopping or something but instead forced into a confession room with an Imam and everyone be forced to TALK.
Yes but the 2nd wife did not know and was obviousley conned!
that does not give him the right to abuse her in such a degrading way!
The father should think ke how has he raised his child?...to lie his way through life and use women?
he should question himself not the character of the 2nd unknowing wife who is now HIS daughter in law and the mother to be of his grandchild.
