Is he Serious or just playing around?

[MIAinVA]

Re: Is he Serious or just playing around?

@qtchick

I found your reply bit practical and serious one.

We had conversation about it today over the net and text msgs. And i tried to convey him I really dont feel comfortable with his this demand.
What he says is again something I cant deny. He is 34 now and he actually have had a very active sexual life. Since we are in relationship ( that is one year time) He has been faithful (which i feel too) and not really having any physical or emotional relationship with anyone.

He is always in touch with me most of the times…wont sleep unless talk to me at night and that too on a vdo call. I cant doubt his loyalty because of amount of time he spends talking to me. He cant get time for someone else . He is living all by him self…so he has no restrictions to go for any other girl.

Now his point is this that he has physical and emotional needs…and he want to feel loved. So there should be no harm giving me kisses or give some small teasers. It keeps the relationship alive ( for men ). Physical part does matter alot And specially when he sees me he really get SEXCITED ( the exact word he uses for it :-S ) and want these HARMLESS things. and this that he is not seeing anyone else for the matter…so with whom he should do all these things? I reminded him that we are getting engaged anyway in a month or so so what we can do we should go for nikah and later we can have everything we want. He Said…OK…but what until one month? ? ? :-S

And after Nikah you may make me ask to wait for Rukhasti…

that is really weird and for the first time I am gonna sleep without seeing him online because I am really kind of pissed off on this. And told that I cant do this…if he is that frustrated he should find some one night stand. i wont mind that :-s :-s

Besides this…he is really very caring and loving. I would not like losing him if he stop bullying about this specific thing.

Can any married women tell me that physical desires can over come men’s emotions at times, ???
What I see is he is really desperate at times and would not allow me to sleep and would watch me for hours. (simple cam chats)

Is he desperate or what? :-s i am unable to understand.
If its flirt…he can find someone there as well…why long distance relationship? :-s

He’s talking crap. People who are genuinely interested in marriage can wait… please do not do any of those things he’s asking you to. He might even be a sicko who gets a kick out of getting girls to do these things over the internet… you never know. What if he records your video calls or something and blackmails you later. Tell him any physical stuff is happening only after marriage, if he can wait that long… fine.
Otherwise stop talking to him, get out of this relationship as fast as you can.