I met this guy few months back on this Matrimonial site. I found him a good human and we share loads of common interests. I really like him despite of this that he is not really very handsome looking and not making loads of money even being in EU. He was born and raised there. We have had great conversations over phone/vdo calls and text msgs. We met only once when he came to Pakistan.
Now, there is something making me feel strange … we do vdo chat for hours and talk about everything. We even talk about our relationship what we want and what not…when are we getting married. I am open to any topics we are discussing and we have a great comfort level while talking to each other.
Last week he went to see his relatives in England, so he was on vocation. while being with relatives/friends he was still sending me text and calling me and would stay up whole night to do vdo call with me. And would not really want me to go offline & whenever i tell him I’m leaving He wanted to see me for more time always :-s
I dont mind any of it…I am open minded and we talk about EVERYTHING. 2 days back when We were online and talking to each other…it was birthday of his nephew and he was still not in the party downstairs just to talk to me…I could see people walking in front of him as he was in lounge. so am sure there was a party. He came up with a strange request…and it was this he want me to give him kisses on cam :-S :-s and then he wud want me to show him some small teasers ( if u know what i mean) when i refused , he said" You dont wanna see me happy…am online only to see you because i miss you alot but you cant do this for me" etc.
WTF…it was such an unexpected thing from him that I went offline without telling him. Later on I got his messages saying sorry and this that we are in a relationship n he wanted some kisses n a bit teaser thing…when we are getting engaged or socially in a relationship next month (We have not spoken to our families yet… He is coming to Pak for eid and we have planned SO FAR that this time we should get engaged at least) .
I sent only one reply saying that he should not expect such things unless we are in a proper relationship and also this that he was really very rude and i cant stand it. I’m not talking to this guy since that time…though he is sending me texts ( he didnt bother to call me so )
What I want to know is this “is it normal thing what he asked from me”?
I have a liberal life style I am outgoing/ have male friendz and I smoke also. I would go travelling to any country all alone…these things made him think that I can do anything crappy? or he is just playing so far? all my friends females/males they tell me I have got a great sense of humor and at times i crack funny adult jokes and would comment with dual meanings…is this all taken as i am “ready to be taken for granted” ?
I am not depressed on all this…as there is nothing emotional. Still I am confused…should I contact him if hes keep on texting me? why would he spend so much time talking/ watching me..or go crazy if am not in touch if he is flirting??? I know how much does it cost from EU to Pak for text messages or calls and someone with his earning would not like to waste money in flirts sending a 100 messages everyday?
I dont know…I seriously dont know. What to do…Should i carry on or not?
I wont be upset if I end up here but it would such a waste of time. I cant really expect him taking me as a ***** :-S ( sorry for being blunt)
don't trust him....please. No looks+no money+he demands you to act crappy? then why are you wasting your time? find a nice guy in real life and get married.
DO NOT do anything he is asking you to do. Involve your familes and get engaged if he is THAT serious. Reply his msgs and talk to him too, but DO NOT agree to any indecent thing.
Hareem....hes not bad looking if he is not handsome. and about Money....He is making a reasonable survival. Not a High Fi life style though and belongs to a good family background.
I like him as a person and if we subtract what he demanded other day...everything was going fabulous. that is the reason it is taking time for me to decide about dumping him. :-/
DO NOT do anything he is asking you to do. Involve your familes and get engaged if he is THAT serious. Reply his msgs and talk to him too, but DO NOT agree to any indecent thing.
Very good advice. I think most guys from West are quite okay with kissing and stuff before marriage. Next time if he asks anything, just tell him that you'renot comfortable with this.
I will surely not do anything indecent unless we have some social/legal and religious relationship :-)
BTW its not only in west...when i came back to Pak I found out that our society is facing downfall of norm and religion. girls and guys are not only dating but most of them do EVERYTHING before getting married and they are OK with this. But still I cant follow them :-)
All I want to say here that even after getting engaged, these sort of demand should never be fullfilled by anymeans ... Until and unless you both get married to eachothers ... ! The world of net is not safe and trusting someone and lateron when this trust gets over, it really gives a load of pain ... I wish you all the success and good luck for your future !!!
Hareem....hes not bad looking if he is not handsome. and about Money....He is making a reasonable survival. Not a High Fi life style though and belongs to a good family background.
I like him as a person and if we subtract what he demanded other day...everything was going fabulous. that is the reason it is taking time for me to decide about dumping him. :-/
You should've said this clearly in your first post.
I really like him despite of this that he is not really very handsome looking and not making loads of money even being in EU. I really like him despite of this that he is not really very handsome looking and not making loads of money even being in EU.
I will surely not do anything indecent unless we have some social/legal and religious relationship :-)
BTW its not only in west...when i came back to Pak I found out that our society is facing downfall of norm and religion. girls and guys are not only dating but most of them do EVERYTHING before getting married and they are OK with this. But still I cant follow them :-)
cheers everyone.....
Pakistanis are okay with this only behind the doors, for the Western guys it's normal to kiss etc before marriage in open. I'm not saying who's bad and who's good, it's just the difference in both cultures.
don't trust him....please. No looks+no money+he demands you to act crappy? then why are you wasting your time? find a nice guy in real life and get married.
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