Is family important?

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how can your family be racist towards you? Aren’t you the same race as them ?? :konfused:

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I didn’t mean towards me.. I meant in general..

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How would you define abuse ? Do you mean like a slap or a punch or verbal abuse? And does it have to be repeated behavior?

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Bad people are just terrible influences who only teach you how to be destructive and self destructive and I would advocate a distance needs to be maintained even if they are close/immediate relatives. And no a distance does not mean cutting them off.

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Ofcourse there is a line, depends where you draw it.

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Everyone's family dynamics are different so people will have different things to say I would assume.

I think personally, I will always love my family no matter how much they might hurt me or not be there for me. However, I think when you get older - you form newer bonds with people like husband/wife, kids and they become your main priority. If my parents, siblings, in-laws, etc were harming the relationship I had with my husband or kids I would have to take a step back from them. It doesn't mean I would cut ties and not speak to them, but I would just try to maintain a space where there was less interference.

I would of course always be there for them but at the same time I would not want a toxic environment at home. Speaking from personal experience, when you get involved in family drama, or two people don't get along, many times you're expected to pick sides and it's just a mess.

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Threads like these make me sad. Unfortunately, my dad's side isn't good at dealing with issues and we don't have much of a relationship with any of them. 7 siblings and we talk to... 1 other one. They all talk to each other though so it's just us.

There's a lot of drama in every family and my mom's side is no different than my dad's BUT the thing is, that they'll fight/scream/yell but a few days later will all be together. My dad's side tends to make everything a matter of their ego and will sever ties quickly--or my dad will at least.

Growing up it sucked because we didn't have family eids or dinners or dawats and I didn't have any of my uncles/aunts present for my graduations but it wasn't a big deal. Now that I'm getting engaged, it REALLY feels weird because we have no one. My in -laws have a very close family and all 50+ people show up to everything. We don't have anyone representing our side.

I don't think my dad realizes that far reaching consequences of his actions because we're basically nonexistent in his family's eyes. But oh well. I've told myself that I'm not gonna do this with my own family iA and I'm really happy that I'm marrying into a family that DOES value family ties and won't just cut contact like that over things.

I value family relations but yeah, from what I've seen, when money/finances are involved, lines tend to get crossed and it destroys relationships.

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Hard to give specifics tbh..

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