Is family important?

[Sentry]

Re: Is family important?

@GlobalGal

I loved my sis in law and totally looked up to her. I thought she was the quintessential daughter in law and sis in law. I mean she was the nicest person before but I don’t know what happened to her in the last couple years. My brother treats her so well and loves her so much and she seems to have two perfect kids and a great job. I’ve noticed that she’s become a bit full of herself and I don’t even recognize her anymore. i still love her because she’s my brother’s wife and he loves her a lot but she went on full drama queen mode the last time she had a big bash for her son.

As just a passing comment I asked her how much the hairstylist right downstairs would cut off just to shape my hair because I had uneven ends on my hair. I didn’t really want to get my hair cut. While we were waiting for her son’s hair to be cut she asks me to go down with her so we can get my hair cut…i’m like I really don’t need it cut, I like it long so it’s not a big deal but she convinced me to go. The hairstylist wanted to cut a lot more than just a bit to shape the hair so i just said it’s no big deal and that we should just go up. My sis in law kept insisting that it would look good and that I should get it cut atleast 4 or 5 times. I’m thinking in my head, why force me if I never really wanted the hair cut and I like it long. so after the 5th time of insisting and the hairstylist was all ready to chop off my hair…I felt like I was being cornered and frustrated I just blurted out, “if she cuts it i might get angry so let’s just go back upstairs and concentrate on my nephew’s hair cut”. My sis in law took the part about me getting angry personally. And she in turn got all huffy and “you’ll get angry with me???”. I’m thinking why is she taking it so personally and on top of that why is she going into drama queen mode and when we got upstairs and home in front of my dad and bro she went full on scary mode and complained to my brother that I didn’t even want the hair cut and I just wanted to ask the stylists opinion and when I tried to explain it to my brother and father she screamed at me shouting " don’t waste my time if you didn’t want a haircut…" I was just quiet and after that big drama, I was in awe and I just went to my room because I was just shocked about which beast took over my nice, sweet sis in law’s body. It was like something out of the exorcist and I just didn’t understand why it turned into something that wasn’t even necessary especially in front of my nephew and other family members. If I had just let my sis in law chop all my hair off like she wanted she wouldn’t have blown up on me like that. I’m still thinking what I did wrong…I just don’t like it when I’m being forced to do something I clearly was not comfortable with. Maybe saying “I might get angry if she cuts it that much” might not have been the right words.

All this because of a forced hair cutting session. I don’t want my relationship to be spoiled with her I love my brother and her so i’m willing to forgive but for her it was like nothing happened. She’s changed a lot and has become quite controlling where everything has to be how she wants it. Stupid situations like this happen between family members and we have to look past them.

Yes. Having a tiff over cutting your hair shouldn’t lead to cutting ties with family members.

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