I have noticed that here and usually among desi people education is really important , at least then when they are looking for spouse and usually education is the reason why someone declines rishta proposal. I personally just don`t get it.
Im studying in university, but for me its not really important that my future husband has studied also in university. I just dont care about education background. I think more important is that he does something which he likes to do for work and really I dont mind whether he is doctor or plumber! Of course I insist that my spouse does something for work and not just hang out at sofa all day, but point is that he doesn’t have to be highly educated, to get my love u dont need high education.
But like nowadays everyone seems to want a doctor, lawyer or engineer for a spouse, and I think its just weird to decline rishta proposal just for that he/she isnt doctor etc. personality should be way more important. Of course education means that person is smart, and has ambition and can provide a family, but also not that highly educated can do that and be smart and ambitious.
I just think that people think way too much education. For example my cousin declined rishta proposal even when she liked him, he was handsome, her parents liked him and they clicked but she said that he was “just” an accountant and she is a doctor so he isn’t her standard, I just couldnt believe that she said no because of education..
So question is would u marry someone who isnt “highly” educated?
Re: Is education really more important than personality?
Yes
You are a guy NomiCA. It will definitely be ok with you. This question is more relevant to girls whether they think its ok to marry the guy less educated than them.
Re: Is education really more important than personality?
You are a guy NomiCA. It will definitely be ok with you. This question is more relevant to girls whether they think its ok to marry the guy less educated than them.
Ok...people..disregard my first post......thank you
Re: Is education really more important than personality?
Usually its a problem for girls side, So in most cases when girls family demands highly educated guy they keep good future in mind.
Highly educated >> Good Job >> Good Income>> secure future.
I think its wrong but Higher education is important both for girl and guy. Education might mean good income but education is also important becoz Education makes u a better person.
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it scares me if i had married someone highly educated, like a phd doctor. He mgiht be either showing off or drooling over books or scratching his head all the time :halo:
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Since I have seen some bad cases, I would not go for a guy less educated than me. I am a human and there are chances I can start considering myself superior than my husband or my husband would start treating me bad because of this. Asking for a graduate is not something very unreasonable I think if a girl is a graduate herself.
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education is important as much as it makes you earn good bread. A degree doesnt make a stew (uff such jahil views, im going to be damned or banned atleast )
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Woh kehte hai na k never say no cuz you don't know what God has in store for you. But let me say this, if i have an option then it would be a definate No for me.
Good Education helps you build up your personality and you will always have something to fall back in bad times. If you are not educated but got a fluke at some great job, well done for you but remember you dont have something to fall back on if God forbid all doesnt go well for you.
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Its absoloutely not for earning purpose. Its just for saving the married life from troubles of fights and arguments which both the spouse can have because of this education issue if the wife is more educated than the guy. Unfortunately, my observation has made me learn this lesson.
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Oh really! I suppose its true only if the person is a male, rite?. Howcome i dont see the same being said when the girls are rejected for their height, weight, complexion and what not :halo:.
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I cant figure why there should be troubles of fights and arguments if im a graduate and my husband is not even though im a horrible person otherwise and he is the one best I could ever have. Knowledge can be but education is not the crowning of life for sure.
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Personality comes with education.
Re: Doc girls...
and it is better for doc girls to marry doc guys or someone in the same income range. I have seen many times guys making less compared to their doc wives get into this inferiority complex and create all sorts of troubles for the girl.
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Let me add here that there is a big difference between an educated person and an well educated person. SO be careful on that! Now how do you tell the difference, well their personality/knowledge and way of talking gives it away.
I would prefer someone who has been well educated with a simple graduation over someone who only has the tag of an mba/masters but not the knowledge and grooming that was suppose to come with it.
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I cant figure why there should be troubles of fights and arguments if im a graduate and my husband is not even though im a horrible person otherwise and he is the one best I could ever have. Knowledge can be but education is not the crowning of life for sure.
I hope things are as simple as that. But then why did my cousin got divorced. She was a masters degree holder and a lecturer and her husband only passed 10th grade. My cousin was very very average looking so she had rishta problem and even her younger sister married before her. My cousin ended up marrying this guy and they had fights, arguments and within few years they had divorce. She told us that the guy used to insult her over this education thing (or may be she used to insult him, only Allah knows the truth).
It really depends on the girl and guy. Even if I am ok with it, how will I be so sure that my future husband will not be complexed with this education issue in the future.
So just to be on the safe side, I think better not to go for less educated guy than you. Its just a way to reduce one factor leading towards complications in married life.
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Well I hear you. But we can never make it a rule or something. Divorces can occur anycase if they have too. Maybe its mental capability thats more important. Then there are priorities. And then there is a certain mind set with which you start your life. It all matters.
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When it comes to education / income, I expect my husband to be either on the same level as I am OR higher.
1) When I have a child, I plan on being a stay-at-home wife. Thus, at that time, my husband will need to support the whole family. I know one couple where the wife earns more than the husband. It was a "love" marriage and they want to have a child now. But financially, her giving up her job to stay home with a baby (which is what she wants) will cause a MAJOR hit in their finances. And a baby isn't cheap. So things were great before marriage...but now, regarding finances, reality is setting in and they constantly argue.
2) Having a degree doesn't guarantee a good job. But it certainly doesn't hurt. I'd prefer my husband have a degree rather than him not get a promotion or job in the future b/c he lacks it.
3) I never want my child to be able to say to me "well dad didn't finish school (or college) so why do I have to?".
As a woman, if you're ok with having to work once you have a child and do not mind being the main earner for your family, then the guy's education/income shouldn't matter to you. So first thing would be for you to decide whether you always plan on being a full-time career woman, OR do you someday want to stay home with your child. And if you do choose to marry someone will less education, be 110% sure that it will not cause a complex in him once you're married.
(uff such jahil views, im going to be damned or banned atleast 
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