…some of the mandatory transformations required of brown girls/guys post-marriage? Or they’re like that right from the getgo?
Is it just me, or some of these people turn into mind-numbingly bores, who’s talk revolve around their partners, their childerns, and their monotonous matrimonial lives?
Re: Is being funless, humorless, adventureless...
Traditionally a girl's real life starts after she gets married.If the guy wanted a fun, humorous, adventuresome girl...he would be looking for such a girl...and same goes for the girl.Not all guys want a humorless, adventureless,wife and not all girls want a humorless,adventureless dude...Am I being redundant:D
so your saying guys look for funless , humourless girls to marry ? 
No…I meant I know some guys who wait and wait and still waiting for girls who are outdoorsy/adventuresome/humorous etc.Its really HIGH on their list…and they are not willing to settle for anything less.While for oters this may be not such an important criteria and they are just wanting a “wife” only(not a person who becomes their wife)…Get it…or did I confuse you more:D
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Askieee…never get into the match-making business 
...some of the mandatory transformations required of brown girls/guys post-marriage? Or they're like that right from the getgo*?*
Is it just me, or some of these people turn into mind-numbingly bores, who's talk revolve around their partners, their childerns, and their monotonous matrimonial lives?
That is so true.....all i hear my colleagues harping on about was either arguments with their spouses or about their kids......
i mean its ok to an extent and if its a close friend but must every conversation in every gathering just be about ur "married lives" ! Some of us are not interested what happens in your home !
I know…But I wanna get into Phaphe Kutni Bizzniss “Aunties Unlimited”:D…I will call it “Yo Shizzle…Is My Bizzle”…meaning your Private life bizzness is My Bizzniss:D…woah!! I love that Idea…You just gave me a grand Idea for a new Pyramid scheme:DMan!! I gonna be RICH!!
I can probably forgive them all their short-comings, but I can’t forgive them losing their sense of humor. (especially when my joke was pretty darn hilarious) 
I know....But I wanna get into Phaphe Kutni Bizzniss "Aunties Unlimited":D...I will call it "Yo Shizzle...Is My Bizzle"...meaning your Private life bizzness is My Bizzniss:D...woah!! I love that Idea...You just gave me a grand Idea for a new Pyramid scheme:DMan!! I gonna be RICH!!
as long as i get a cut ! :D
...some of the mandatory transformations required of brown girls/guys post-marriage? Or they're like that right from the getgo?
Is it just me, or some of these people turn into mind-numbingly bores, who's talk revolve around their partners, their childerns, and their monotonous matrimonial lives?
They aren't mandatory, no.
Some people change with time, either way... like I know couples who have become more social and/or outgoing after marriage, where both husband and wife spend weekends in little trips doing sun stuff together. And I've also seen couples who prefer to stay home and watch TV/movies rather than anything else.
Well what seems fun for you and me may not be fun for others.
Regarding talking about kids and spouse, I think that many people like to do that because that is the center of their life not because they don't have anything else going on.
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i think being funless, humorless and adventureless is probably seen as a sign of maturity (go figure)...u know the concept of an immaculate, soft-spoken, primly dressed girl as an ideal bahoo and a brooding, level-headed, 'sober' kind as the perfect 'damaad', both kinds are predictable in their demeanor thus considered safe.
well maybe not ALL thier shortcomings but yes Sense of humour is top of the list…
Why do they change for the worse, though? Our girls are pretty unimaginative as it is, and then they get married and thats a perfect recipe for making a monotonous monster (sorry girls, had to use m-word just for the sake of alliteration 
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Again why is maturity equated with these boring characteristics? You can be care-free, funny, impulsive and still be mature when situation calls for it.
Could be that their husbands can’t handle their spirit, or could be that their hubby’s tidd puts them off 
But I agree, I have seen many fun loving girls end up being boring housewives with only one strength: cooking. Their homes are messy, they do nothing productive or fun, they smell of salans all the time, even their body washes are from Shan aromatics.
budhi aurat Anyways humor is part of reponsibility how can one live without little bit humor.Everyone wants to smile.
Yep some housewives life revolve around kitchen only:D
Ahh…THAT I can imagine as a true spirit-crusher! Ok girls, anyone married to a pot-bellied dude: your blank stare, your lack of interest in life, your rolling of eyes at even the most funniest of jokes is all forgiven.
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Canterkerous, there are many people in that situation…but the question is what came first, the nihari or the tidd? 
Its not a question of what came first. Its the cumulative affect of nihari, maturity, and senility.
Down with the so called maturity. 
At least your tummy will stay taut.
exactly! its a silly stereotype.
:CareBear: yes women are supposed to transform overnight into budhi aurats
Re: Is being funless, humorless, adventureless...
Life before marriage and after marriage is not same.
Specially if there are children.
Expecting someone to act just like before marriage is not really a right thing to do.
There are other priorities in life after marriage. For a short time after marriage the adventurus activity goes on but it is bound to change for most people.
Sense of humor should be there but that also changes.
Aside from that the care-free attitude, risk taking attitude and irresponsible kind of attitude is unbecoming on a person who is married and has children.
Life is naturally different after marriage. Its not like they are like that from git go.
One has be around family too.
Outdoor fun also revolves around safer activities rather than teenager/unmarried kind where people drive a motor bike between two trucks and feel a rush. You will not see a married man doing that for fun unless he is crazy.
Even though a married person will appreciate the funny/silly joke but that person might think. "Yeah been there done that"!
Joke-telling also changes. People will look upon the person in weird way if dirty or silly jokes are told by a married person. People talk more about business, and serious stuff rather than talking about the girl next door.
Off course some people never change but their family life shows that they are just irresponsible, have no idea of saving money, they are changing jobs or getting fired more often, kids running around everywhere and not taking parents seriously.
For a single person married couple looks weird till that person gets married.
Initially people think. If that's the married life then I am better off being single....till they get married and feel content with what they get.