I agree with u Catanky.. when u attend any social gathering/community gathering ( I usually go to the expat Pakistani ones) all the married people (most of them) are talking abt what they're kids did at school.. how smart their kids are.. and endless teacher-child dialogues! It's diff joining-in on the enthusiasm when u don't even know the kid and in often cases the kid isn't even cute!
When Mothercare, babyshop has their sales.. and which diaper bag is better and why..
Then they're are the married uncle ji's that have only one topic.. and that is
"doosri" shadi.. and the jokes on married men.. and the "yaar mein soch raha hon doosri shaadi kar hi lon ab.." this topic has been done to death!
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My POW is closer to niksik and diwana here. Married life brings in the kind of responsibilities along with it that singles do not face. Most of the time in our society kids haven’t had the ‘ running the household’ kind of burdens when single. Their priorities change from staying out all night with friends and waking up late the next afternoon. They know that next day is work probably and the reality is bills need to be paid but that doesn’t mean that when the times comes they don’t enjoy. On the same note picking up and going shopping at the spur of the moment isn’t practical either. Fart and pewk jokes that were funny before start sounding kinda juvenile. Don’t get me wrong just among themselves the couple can act pretty juvenile and enjoy it too. This nature never changes just they realize that not everything silly needs to be done in public. Like someone else said earlier the truth is’ been there, done that’ is a big part of it.
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Is it just me, or some of these people turn into mind-numbingly bores, who's talk revolve around their partners, their childerns, and their monotonous matrimonial lives?
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Usually people talk about what interests them. A single person might talk about latest trends, techy stuff, etc with no interest to other things which is fine but as a married person you also have your spouse, kids if you have any and other things that become a priority. Constant chat about the kids by the young parents is due to their desire to learn to be a better parent by sharing experiences and knowledge. Being a mother of much older kids I do agree with you that sometimes it becomes kinda boring but then I look back and see what my reasons were of that. Usually new mothers hangout together in gatherings. They feel the same way at time about the young or the single people who seem to just narrow in on themselves and their own circle.
I don’t agree that married people loose their sense of humor. they can be as silly, stupid and juvenile as the other guy.
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Our girls are pretty unimaginative as it is, and then they get married and thats a perfect recipe for making a monotonous monster
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I don’t agree one bit that our girls are unimaginative. I think they are very creative and tactful. With all the traditions of our culture for a person to live a life and then get married and be able to adopt the new family’s wayz takes quite a bit of creativity and imagination. In cultures where marriage is between people it might be easy but our marriages are between families and majority of the time the responsibility of keeping things smooth lies with the women. If the girl has changed after shadi it is most of the time due to the new families desire and not to create any friction.
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You can be carefree, funny, and impulsive and still be mature when situation calls for it.
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Don’t know what you mean by care-free and impulsive. Married person's carefree and impulsive can’t be doing things at the spur of the moment without thinking things through, too many things and responsibilities to think of.
If married people are boring and devoid of any personality as the original poster states, than unmarried people are selfish and careless and irresponsbile.
I don’t agree one bit that our girls are unimaginative. I think they are very creative and tactful. With all the traditions of our culture for a person to live a life and then get married and be able to adopt the new family’s wayz takes quite a bit of creativity and imagination. In cultures where marriage is between people it might be easy but our marriages are between families and majority of the time the responsibility of keeping things smooth lies with the women. If the girl has changed after shadi it is most of the time due to the new families desire and not to create any friction.
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Don’t know what you mean by care-free and impulsive. Married person's carefree and impulsive can’t be doing things at the spur of the moment without thinking things through, too many things and responsibilities to think of.**
Yes yes everyone dreams of being care free and imulsive, but who in acutality actually has that type oflife? not even celebrities/billionaires b/c htey too still have responsibilities to attend ot. Its' jsut a fantasy...not a reality. There are times when I wish I was single, but even then I still know that life wouldnt be magically better.
Plus, girls aren't exactly given as much freedom to be carefree nad impulsive like our brothers are. I know people who had all the freedom in the world and come from mellow families but don't go beyond their work/school/home, while others who had incredibly strict families just bounce off hte walls when they cant leave the house fora day.
Anyways, it really just boils down to individual prferences, characternad personality.
My POW is closer to niksik and diwana here. Married life brings in the kind of responsibilities along with it that singles do not face. Most of the time in our society kids haven’t had the ‘ running the household’ kind of burdens when single. Their priorities change from staying out all night with friends and waking up late the next afternoon. They know that next day is work probably and the reality is bills need to be paid but that doesn’t mean that when the times comes they don’t enjoy. On the same note picking up and going shopping at the spur of the moment isn’t practical either. Fart and pewk jokes that were funny before start sounding kinda juvenile. Don’t get me wrong just among themselves the couple can act pretty juvenile and enjoy it too. This nature never changes just they realize that not everything silly needs to be done in public. Like someone else said earlier the truth is’ been there, done that’ is a big part of it.
Usually people talk about what interests them. A single person might talk about latest trends, techy stuff, etc with no interest to other things which is fine but as a married person you also have your spouse, kids if you have any and other things that become a priority. Constant chat about the kids by the young parents is due to their desire to learn to be a better parent by sharing experiences and knowledge. Being a mother of much older kids I do agree with you that sometimes it becomes kinda boring but then I look back and see what my reasons were of that. Usually new mothers hangout together in gatherings. They feel the same way at time about the young or the single people who seem to just narrow in on themselves and their own circle.
I don’t agree that married people loose their sense of humor. they can be as silly, stupid and juvenile as the other guy.
I don’t agree one bit that our girls are unimaginative. I think they are very creative and tactful. With all the traditions of our culture for a person to live a life and then get married and be able to adopt the new family’s wayz takes quite a bit of creativity and imagination. In cultures where marriage is between people it might be easy but our marriages are between families and majority of the time the responsibility of keeping things smooth lies with the women. If the girl has changed after shadi it is most of the time due to the new families desire and not to create any friction.
Don’t know what you mean by care-free and impulsive. Married person's carefree and impulsive can’t be doing things at the spur of the moment without thinking things through, too many things and responsibilities to think of.
