I’ve been thinking about this now for about a week. Okay perhaps I should tell you guys the background story to this question. Last week I met a lady, she was beautiful, well-spoken in english and pakistani and seemed generally to be a nice person.
Anyhow, whilst talkin to her I found out that her husband had left her 10 years ago with 5 children and pregnant with her sixth. Now, I’m not concerned with the husband leaving her, but more curious about the woman he left her for and the same woman who then made him divorce this lady with whom he had a family.
Why would a woman go with a married man? How can she break up a family? Why would one woman inflict merciless pain on another woman?
I don’t think I could ever break up a family no matter how much I loved a person if he was already married (in fact I personally don’t think a married man is a worth a penny in salt! so probably wouldn’t happen to me!)
This lady has brought up her six young children on her own (the youngest was nine when he left her) and has raised them without any input from their father. And the most heartbreaking part of this story was that her youngest child was born after her husband left her, who has never had any kind of relationship with his father. And yet despite all this, she could only still say nice things about her ex in-laws.
As for the ex-inlaws, did they have anything to do with the divorce? Were they the ones who blamed the woman for being inadequate to the point that her husband strayed, or were they on her side? If it was the latter case, then it's understandable that she has nice things to say about them.
Oh ya most of the time!!! Having said that the men r equally at fault cuz after all they r not kids who wl get lured away like that.
Anywayz i feel bad for your this women you met. What can i say except that women r emotionally very strong. In this case its some another women snatching her husband na but just recently somebody told me abt an incident which left me shocked. A sister snatched away her sister's husband from her after she came 2 actually help out her sister with her delievery...just imagine. And now both of them r living 2gether...married to the guy...and the new wife gets all the luxeries while the 1st one is responsible for all the house chores and all. Can you believe it that women is still living in that house? tolerating her husband and her sister?.........Just imagine!
Oh ya most of the time!!! Having said that the men r equally at fault cuz after all they r not kids who wl get lured away like that.
Anywayz i feel bad for your this women you met. What can i say except that women r emotionally very strong. In this case its some another women snatching her husband na but just recently somebody told me abt an incident which left me shocked. A sister snatched away her sister's husband from her after she came 2 actually help out her sister with her delievery...just imagine. And now both of them r living 2gether...married to the guy...and the new wife gets all the luxeries while the 1st one is responsible for all the house chores and all. Can you believe it that women is still living in that house? tolerating her husband and her sister?.........Just imagine!
I'm sure two sisters can't be married to one man at the same time in islam...or am i wrong?
Yes they can be. But one also has to remember, at least still in our desi society (and to some extent even here) how much pressure women have to be all married and settled. Some women then do whatever it takes to get married.
And why would a retarded man leaves a pregnant wife..for another women..and what kind of a women..runs after father of 5..??
Some people are so sick..!
that is really sad .. d man mus be an irresponsible ass i mean he still usin his firstwife gt her pregnant d den left to find sum new women .. i think in sum cases a women is a womens worst enemy
I've been thinking about this now for about a week. Okay perhaps I should tell you guys the background story to this question. Last week I met a lady, she was beautiful, well-spoken in english and pakistani and seemed generally to be a nice person.
Anyhow, whilst talkin to her I found out that her husband had left her 10 years ago with 5 children and pregnant with her sixth. Now, I'm not concerned with the husband leaving her, but more curious about the woman he left her for and the same woman who then made him divorce this lady with whom he had a family.
Why would a woman go with a married man? How can she break up a family? Why would one woman inflict merciless pain on another woman?
I don't think I could ever break up a family no matter how much I loved a person if he was already married (in fact I personally don't think a married man is a worth a penny in salt! so probably wouldn't happen to me!)
This lady has brought up her six young children on her own (the youngest was nine when he left her) and has raised them without any input from their father. And the most heartbreaking part of this story was that her youngest child was born after her husband left her, who has never had any kind of relationship with his father. And yet despite all this, she could only still say nice things about her ex in-laws.
Just think of all the reward this woman will get for her sabar...........and it reflects well on her as a person as well that she doesn't go round bad mouthing the other party and giving "bad-duas"...this is unfortunately the norm these days................................
Oh ya most of the time!!! Having said that the men r equally at fault cuz after all they r not kids who wl get lured away like that.
Anywayz i feel bad for your this women you met. What can i say except that women r emotionally very strong. In this case its some another women snatching her husband na but just recently somebody told me abt an incident which left me shocked. A sister snatched away her sister's husband from her after she came 2 actually help out her sister with her delievery...just imagine. And now both of them r living 2gether...married to the guy...and the new wife gets all the luxeries while the 1st one is responsible for all the house chores and all. Can you believe it that women is still living in that house? tolerating her husband and her sister?.........Just imagine!
Isn't two sisters marrying the same guy makrooh and/or haram?
Oh ya most of the time!!! Having said that the men r equally at fault cuz after all they r not kids who wl get lured away like that.
Anywayz i feel bad for your this women you met. What can i say except that women r emotionally very strong. In this case its some another women snatching her husband na but just recently somebody told me abt an incident which left me shocked. A sister snatched away her sister's husband from her after she came 2 actually help out her sister with her delievery...just imagine. And now both of them r living 2gether...married to the guy...and the new wife gets all the luxeries while the 1st one is responsible for all the house chores and all. Can you believe it that women is still living in that house? tolerating her husband and her sister?.........Just imagine!
Why would a woman go with a married man? How can she break up a family? Why would one woman inflict merciless pain on another woman?
girl theres *****es that do this kinda stuff all the time
they so desp 4 their OWN needs that they dun even effin care how their actionz are affecting others
so dun wrry
these *****es will learn
what comes around goes around
yes women are evil and horrible to one another i dont know how anyone can do that. Any by the way leaving a wife while pregnant is complrelty against islam u cant even do that!! u have to wait till after nursing to leave her am i not correct on this!?!?! he is a ******* and what goes around comes around he will get his. This poor lady sounds very lovely and strong esp since she had ony good things to say just shows what a nice person she is.
Why not look at the man in this story? Blame him. He had a family that he broke for another woman. Is he a slave to his genitals that he can't think and make decisions for himself? That he can't make moral decisions?
Why not blame him.
Never blame another woman. Always blame the guy. They're the ones that God supposedly gave more power and authority to, aren't they? Isn't that what ever maulvi in religion forum barks on about?
Then how can you possibly blame the stupid immoral woman, who can't help but be a stupid temptress?
Why not blame the person with the most responsibility and authority?
Don't we blame Musharaf for every problem in Pakistan? Then why do we avoid blaming the "head of the household"?
You get the title, you get the responsibility, you should also get the blame.