Re: Is a scantily dressed woman a "meat" responsible for her own rape?
However, i posed the same question to a lot of people i came across after my last post and all males said that well immodestly dressed women may incite or arouse some one to commit something as serious as rape. once i asked you think like this he said no but he expects that other men might do so. almost out of 30 men i asked i did not find a person who said that he thinks so (including me) but all said that others might.
why is it like that? if my select group was small and does not represent majority, may be. however can any psychologist shed light on it, why we do not think like this but think that others might think like this.
Mazahar you raise a good point, i think its b/c our society (both east and west) tells both men and women that. therefore both men and women believe that a scantily dressed women would lead a man to commit rape. its b/c our societies tell us all that. so therefore, men who are told this will tell u this also...that a scantily dressed women will incite a man to rape them, b/c thats what our society is teaching them.
If you had asked women, i would not be surprised if you found most of them said the same thing too. B/c women are taught the same by society. However, b/c we are women, some of us have the incentive to educate ourselves about women's rights issues, and we learn that perhaps this is not so...that since rape is a crime of agression and not passion, the rapist is not raping the women b/c she is pretty but b/c he wants to contol her etc.
I am not saying small clothes have no bearing they may have some bearing on a rapists decision, i suppose, but about as much as a hijab or burqa would.... ofcourse there are many reason any rapist would consider in making their decision, something obviously makes them pick one victim over another, and there are many factors that they could be considering.... i dont know what they are, but i dont doubt that scanty clothes is a factor for some of them, maybe loose clothes is a factor for another, or burqa b/c it might indicate a submissive women or a prey that will have a hard time running away maybe another factor. I dont know what the different factors are for rapists to pick one victim over another, but i dont think we can make this blanket statement that you are any safer if you are dressed more modestly, or that if you are scantily dressed you invite people to rape you!!!
If a man can flaunt his money ..his car...his porche...we say nothing about that, then why are we all...women and men..so filled with spite and hate when a women flaunts her assets!
We all are different we should not judge. If it helps, i actually prefer myself to dress modestly but thats my choice thats my comfort level. I don't know if its a choice that is right for all other women, i can list why i prefer it, but whatevr my reasons are, might not be good for other ppl. So i am not defending my lifestyle here...though even if i were my argument would not be any less forceful. I am just saying ppl should be entitled to do what they want, and we should not hate those different from us... i think its wrong for someone in NY to hate a women in a burqa, i think its just as wrong for someone in our community to hate a women who is wearing an ultra short skirt with a croped tank top!
we are only judged for our actions why do we need to impose our values on others! we are not judged for thier actions are we?