So, yeah i am 22, I am in love with a girl since last three years. The problem is that my mother is not even ready to listen a single word on this issue. I myself don’t wanna get married so early all i need is an official engagement with her but mother says i am too young
Her father and other relatives are in search of a rishta for her, so can’t say what would happen next.. She is 22 too, in fact i am 2 months younger then her. She loves me more, i don’t wanna hurt her but…
Your mother might be right in not giving in to your whims. I have a few questions for you before I can say anything for sure.
1) Do you have a job?
2) Have you started looking for a job?
3) Has your girl told her parents about you?
Your mother might be more comfortable taking the rishta to her place if her parents already knew and didn't dismiss you outright. It would mean avoid any embarrassment, in case the girls parents are taken by surprise due to your state of joblessness.
Coming from another 22 year old. I'm not even going to think of marriage until I get a proper job, one that makes me happy and pays the bills, and a place to live of course.
Hazaaron khwahishen aisi ke har khwahish pe dam nikle
Bohat niklay mere armaan, lekin phir bhi kam nikle
Sabr karo bhai. You aren't going to die if she gets married, you'll just find someone else. Plenty of choris in the sea bhai.
what does your dad say? what does larki's dad say? does he own any dogs? guns? violent brothers? can she cook? do you have a job/career? will she respect your mom?
think about it for couple of years and then send your mother to her house. :)
if the girl can wait, in other words if she dont get any deserving rishta thn there is no problem to begin with. but if she cant then we all have problems and we have to find out the best possible solution, which is feasible for everyone.
you have to find a job, save for the wedding, save for the car and house mortgage. to be honest you guys cant even afford gf, let alone marry them.
Start acknowledging your responsibilities and ability to make decision will get easier. :)
Yeah. I’m done with it, waiting for the results to come out. I did an internship last summer, but they didn’t pay me jack shiz. And the place was pretty crappy, talking about Pakistan Steel Mills over here. The place was totally rundown, they had no money, no materials and lazy workers. Taught me a lesson though, NEVER work in government run manufacturing facility, NEVER.
PS: They had a test for SUPARCO at school today, guess what I didn’t appear for it
You can't do the latter before the former, that is if you are a practicing Muslim.
and where does Islam says that you must need to have a proper job for getting married ?
Allah says in Quran
[24:32] You shall encourage those of you who are single to get married. They may marry the righteous among your male and female servants, if they are poor. GOD will enrich them from His grace. GOD is Bounteous, Knower
So all your talk about having a proper job , which shall pay the bill and a place to live ... are nothing but mere excuses - showing the less faith we muslims have on Allah and his powers - thesedays !
