My response about how kids in Developing Countries (or 3rd world) are still happier than Developed Countries was in reference to TLK’s post…tum pata nahi kahan say tapak pari beech main?
I don’t really care about the reasons but the fact is after all the resources and modern equipment countries like USA, UK, Japan (a world leader in technological field) etc still don’t have the happiest kids. The reasons may vary country to country.
I have sons who are like warriors amidst an 'Apple' war! They have to answer questions in school about why they don't own any iPods or iPhones. Both of them are very confident so it is OK. Lets be honest about this, most parents buy this stuff because they see other parents buying it and feel that their child will somehow be left behind if they didn't have it or will feel left out if they see other kids with it. I think the best thing any parents can do is instill so much confidence in their kids that they don't feel inferior in front of other kids who possess all these gadgets as soon as they hit 6!
I believe the distractions far outweigh any educational benefits that you might get from them and it has the potential of becoming highly addictive for the child too. Don't get me wrong, my children do use the computer for homework and games but they are not fascinated by it like many children of today. That was a consious effort on my part to make sure they were not obsessed with the trends and rather thought of themselves as trendsetters and didn't behave like sheep.
I have yet to find parents that can find the perfect balance with teenagers and technology.
A simple "put it away" doesn't suffice. The whole way that your children learn to communicate, think and interact changes with online communication.
I can give my own example. I don't remember my own's hubby's phone number or my sisters. Two people that I talk to everyday. I do recall however my phoppho's phone number that has been etched in my brain before cell phones and caller ids. It's sad but it's the truth. Another example is recalling directions without GPS.... A part of brain just goes on to auto pilot. It's the same thing with gadgets.
Technology is great. My daughter has access to Quran tutors all over the world via skype. But I recognize that she is also losing something. A face that she will remember and carry with her. Once that online connection is gone, so is her relationship.
My mom used to say this to my dad when she disconnected our cable T.V when we were kids - "na hoye ga bhaas, na bajay gi bansiree" :D
everything. sab kuch mai agree karti hoon. and the bestest thing is that she didn't even tell me about this thread and i just came wandering in like a lost puppy, just to agree with her.
I agree with sweefs agreeing with milly about everything in this thread, and i came here because i was gonna pm sweefs to ask how her last exam went and saw on her profile that she was veiwing this thread and read up to here and now i'm exhausted.
No one is saying that blaming technology alone abdicates parental responsibility and the child’s own responsibility as far the use of technology is concerned. But it is a reality that the prevalence of technology has changed how we communicate and socialize.
We take peole and responsibilities for granted because of the availability of technology and the particular social uses of technology.
how about we all start living in caves again. We all will learn how to hunt our food, we all will start taking interest in nature, we will start training pigeons for communications perhaps and what not. No electricity and TV means we will all sleep early hence healthy and yeah start using horses and camels for transportation, it will save so many lives on the road.
I do not remember any number and I do not have to. My cell phone has it, I have a backup at couple of places and that’s all I need. I can use my brain to do some other productive task (I am doing one right now ). If i have a TV, I can limit my watching time and watch news and other shows that I like or I can sit and watch star-plus for 23 hours a day. Decision is mine.
If technology is there (and is accessible to you) to help you with something, its almost crime to not use it.
I don’t consider having electricity as two way communication. Neither is T.V. (not two way at-least). Plug your child in front of the news channel is not teaching them to communicate either. The topic is about social interactions with technology and not technology in general.
Njay, thank you again for being one of the few that actually understood I was talking about communication apps on the ipoo with reference to children and not technology in general. Seriously if I could lick your face right now, I would.
Instead of just going round and round, can we actually prove with numbers that technology is actually making our generation dumber or any less than previous generations. For anything, I think that kids nowadays are much smart than kids of 2-3 generations ago. WHen they get exposed to more stuff, they learn fast
Instead of just going round and round, can we actually prove with numbers that technology is actually making our generation dumber or any less than previous generations. For anything, I think that kids nowadays are much smart than kids of 2-3 generations ago. WHen they get exposed to more stuff, they learn fast
I don't think thats true. A lot of western schools have made calculators a requirement for math in order to make it easier for kids. They are dumber in the aspect that they can't do anything really hard and education is getting easier and easier for kids.
I had a friend who came back from America and she had an awful time adjusting because in Japan you actually had to study.
Sure there are kids who are smart but I don't think they are a majority and those who were smart usually put the effort outside of school.
^ actually studies were done TLK. Kids ranked higher in some aptitudes however things like able to recall what they had read, or viewed are actually down. Communication is a BIG issue (what this thread was about). Kids not being able sustain meaningful long term relationships is another issue. Kids exposed to intense gaming at a younger age has been linked things serious as ADHD/ADD.
Technology is not bad but it's not good either but each parent has to see when benefits outweigh the risks.
^ actually studies were done TLK. Kids ranked higher in some aptitudes however things like able to recall what they had read, or viewed are actually down. Communication is a BIG issue (what this thread was about). Kids not being able sustain meaningful long term relationships is another issue. Kids exposed to intense gaming at a younger age has been linked things serious as ADHD/ADD.
Technology is not bad but it's not good either but each parent has to see when benefits outweigh the risks.
ADHD/ADD is a joke really how can you tell if one really has it if everybody labels each other that? besides ADHD/ADD is a new term it didn't exist till recently.. how can people compare kids from the last generation to this generation?
I don't think thats true. A lot of western schools have made calculators a requirement for math in order to make it easier for kids. They are dumber in the aspect that they can't do anything really hard and education is getting easier and easier for kids.
I had a friend who came back from America and she had an awful time adjusting because in Japan you actually had to study.
Sure there are kids who are smart but I don't think they are a majority and those who were smart usually put the effort outside of school.
I have not read the whole thread,but this thing about calculators is actually true.I once read an article about it how kids who do not have calculators are always better at maths as compared to those who use it.
When I was in school,calculators were prohibited and only allowed in grade 9 & 10 for special calculations like trigonometry etc.My 10 years younger sister,went to the same school,had an early access to calculators both at home & school,and today even after years of not studying or doing any sort of maths,I can do way better mental calculations and all.
Technology is good and keeping up to date with it is a requirement.But this has for sure come at a cost..!
ADHD/ADD is a joke really how can you tell if one really has it if everybody labels each other that? besides ADHD/ADD is a new term it didn't exist till recently.. how can people compare kids from the last generation to this generation?
going totally off topic of the thread.
new? new and old is pretty relative. The symptoms are pretty clear cut. I think comparisons are out with the level of kids diagnosed.
it's really NOT a joke. Ask the parents and educators and medical providers of kids that deal with this day in day out. Not a joke when your 6 year old needs Ritalin.
new? new and old is pretty relative. The symptoms are pretty clear cut. I think comparisons are out with the level of kids diagnosed.
it's really NOT a joke. Ask the parents and educators and medical providers of kids that deal with this day in day out. Not a joke when your 6 year old needs Ritalin.
It is a joke when everybody labels kids to having ADD/ADHD or some other medical symptom. You wouldn't believe how many kids I know who are normal but parents claim that they have a disorder so they can get benefits.
Last I checked America is pretty pill happy as they are sue happy..
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I understand what you are saying but it would take a pretty twisted parent (which I still think are a minority) to have their child misdiagnosed on purpose to get benefits. There aren't any monetary benefits to have your child diagnosed with a special need in US. Only help in extra schooling etc.
ADHD/ADD is a joke really how can you tell if one really has it if everybody labels each other that? besides ADHD/ADD is a new term it didn't exist till recently.. how can people compare kids from the last generation to this generation?
It is a joke when everybody labels kids to having ADD/ADHD or some other medical symptom. You wouldn't believe how many kids I know who are normal but parents claim that they have a disorder so they can get benefits.
Last I checked America is pretty pill happy as they are sue happy..
Your ignorance is astounding to say the least.
how do you know that those kids are normal? did you give birth to them and/or live with them 24/7? Did alllllll of those parents confide in you that they're just milking the govt?
Your ignorant and arrogant comments are one of the reasons why people who don't have kids aren't taken seriously in parenting threads.
You have a way with words!
). If i have a TV, I can limit my watching time and watch news and other shows that I like or I can sit and watch star-plus for 23 hours a day. Decision is mine.
