tht is just awesome:k: thanks alot degas:)
What makes one person wrong for another person? I think that any two human beings can be compatible. I believe this even more when I look at all the different kinds of people who are married to each other.
Boss, I sense some preconceived notions and generalisations in your mind, and maybe a slight bit of arrogance :-) [Sorry, I just felt that after reading your post, my apologies if that is unwarranted]. I think you should open up and give her and this relationship a chance since after all she was introduced to you by someone whom you said knows you inside out.
I would like to pose the exact opposite question as Niqabi. What makes any two people right for each other? There will always be differences, it's true you will be compatible with some more than others, but there is no perfect match. When I look at the married people I know of, I admire the effort it must take to have kept it together this long.
I agree that you probably had preconceived notions about this girl, she could be the exact opposite of how you perceive her, people are so different in person. And chemistry surely involves the physical aspect of 'clicking' with someone.
You shouldn't blame the person that tried to hook you two up, you can't possibly know a person from two emails, perhaps your match-maker sees the potential you are not willing to make the effort to look for.
Niqabi, I hear ya...I will ask her to send me her picture..and if she looks M.A Islamiat..then who knows eh..
ciao
Gunahgaar
I think you should open up and give her and this relationship a chance
hahahahaha!
BoSS, see the key word remains the "relationship". Man, how many times we gotta tell you. BoSS, please, open up.
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Waisay, teray naal hoee saee ay ais thread che. :D
:/ Good luck to you both...whereever this ends up going...
on the other hand..if you would not have heard from her then you might have thought that she is not interested in you...and all that.
that just proves ..its in human nature to be picky.
look at the bright side; just after exchanging a couple of emails she cannot live without you..she CARES .. thats like love at first email :-D
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Lol, thanks.
So she sent me her picture (Yikes! whatda hell happened to khabarnama)
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Roman, I can't wait to see you post a thread...tay mein vi o karniay aay...tay ainay mazay lainay nay kay bus.
Its not easy to pass on nice girls for 'whatever' reasons...it makes u feel like crap!
BoSS, you brought it on yourself. Allow me to explode on that in the context of the premises of classic theatrical drama tragedy that Greeks invented some B.C years ago.
You see BoSS, in every relationship, there got to be some drama and tragedy involve to steer people's attention and their emotional catharasis. Sometimes this tragedy is brought up by zaalim samaaj, others, it's merely embedded in the characters involved. Yours fall under the second category since there ain't no jazbaati brother, sister, or father etc to stop you, her, or both to carry on your relationship.
In such a case, a mere hookup doesn't render much drama. If it was the case where you got introduced to this girl, got hookup, and we had "and they lived happily ever after" kinda story then I betcha this thread would have not gone beyond 20 replies with mere "awwww", "congratulations", or "oh shooooo shwweeet" typa content. You might have heard a jali bhuni from me a bit, in the form of "jaa paraaN ***** **, sanooN labh naee raee tay tainooN baithay bathaayay". But no, that didn't happen. You didn't hookup with the girl and there were "reasons" behind it, and those reasons were not all so clear -- a perfect recipe for a drama in its most theatrical form, allowing confusion and jazbaati conclusions.
In such a case, people look for the "culprit". They need catharsis. And the only way they can get their usual dose is to bash one of the parties. It's just so happen that you didn't think much on this angle and you ended up being that party. I mean com' on, what did you expect people will feel after reading things like "If I tell her to sit, she would sit -- she sent me a email telling that she was expecting email from me". Man, that'd pighla daina anybody's heart. Here is a woman, nice and caring enough that she doesn't mind catering to your needs, and so much and so willing that she sends you an email message, while half the women would probably rather just wither away but won't utter a single word. That breaks hearts, that brings tears to the eyes, and it definitely angers people towards you. You didn't give them enought to bash the girl so they are gonna bash you. Rule of catharsisism.
Next time, make up something.
boss I see nothing wrong with her getting upset if you don't write back more often, I get annoyed even with my fellow guy friends if we are really great friends and they respond to my e-mails several weeks or months later..
I dunno I try and keep in touch with all my friends at least once every other week (if they are really far away).
As far as girls in pakistan being all submissive and boring and all . I dunno I lived there for 8 yrs and it was the so called 'conservative' ones that were the most sincere and made the best friends. At least they were brought up right, didn't have any wierd hang ups and knew what mattered.
Those trendy wanna-be's who just thought they were soo cool for speaking english... and 'acting american' were the one's I really couldn't stand.
Don't generalize.. there alot of really cool people in pakistan and often they're the one's you guys like to classify as 'fobs'
Waqas
Hey Waqas..good to see you back!
Thanks for the advice...this thread was out of mere annoyance of Not-Again! but it wasn't too bad afterall :-)
ciao
BoSS
Boss are u still keeping in touch with her?
^ Is that a trick question? :-D
Well, the answer to your question is yes, she has passed BoSS 101 i.e. patience...now she is in BoSS 102 i.e. companionship :-D She is mature enough to understand where I am coming from which is good however, I think I've failed her 101 class miserably i.e. romance :-D
^ hehe thats cute.. nahin it wasnt a trick question.. thats good though at least ur still in touch :)
by the way.. not all girls look for romance.. she prob just wants a good friend.. thats all :) if shes mature shes prob just looking for someone intelligent and someone who can be a good friend.. young immature girls do go bit overboard with the lovey dovey stuff though
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by the way.. not all girls look for romance.. she prob just wants a good friend.. thats all :) if shes mature shes prob just looking for someone intelligent and someone who can be a good friend..
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sadzz it's the opposite....the older and mature the girl.. the more serious she is to find a 'mate' than a 'friend'.
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sadzz it's the opposite....the older and mature the girl.. the more serious she is to find a 'mate' than a 'friend'.
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who is talking bout getting mate.. topic here is romancing the stone - like Boss :D
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sadzz it's the opposite....the older and mature the girl.. the more serious she is to find a 'mate' than a 'friend'.
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i dunno... i think yes when a female gets older she is trying to find someone to settle down with.. so yse trying to find a mate.. but they dont necessarily think bout romancing... i know i dont.. :)
BoSS, this whole affair of yours (oops, I'm sorry. Make that "whole relationship of yours") is becoming nightmarish. Kissay paasay vee lag hoon. So now you're frigging talking to the woman. Achha, well, what's next? There got to be a time frame in this whole thing. A guy needs to get "paid" you know.
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That's what I was wondering!
I aint an 'obedient, perfect-housewife-material' but am not a bitch either :-)
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well is this an invitation for him then cuz he wants a gal who is not 'obedient, perfect-housewife-material' and not a bitch either i think he is looking for u. hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah