How am I being arrogant? By telling you to suck it up? If that is arrogance, I'm okay with it.
I don't understand the reason for the whining...that's all. Maybe you can explain why a car honk has you so worked up first? Because I find it ridiculous and not even worth a second thought. In fact, I'd never have even remembered it...but for you it seems traumatizing. If I was in your shoes and married someone outside of my race, I'd have much thicker skin than this.
What are you even doing marrying outside of your race if you cannot handle something so small?
This ^
Because it happened good 4 or 5 times within 20-30min and there was no one on the street but the two of us.
Does that make more sense or is your inability to be self-reflective getting in the way?
I cannot believe why and how some of you guys are such jerks. I don't know why you cannot stand being respectfully disagreed with, and if disagreed with why you think challenging the person for their life decisions is the right thing to do.
Because it happened good 4 or 5 times within 20-30min and there was no one on the street but the two of us.
Does that make more sense or is your inability to be self-reflective getting in the way?
Being a little self reflective would help you a lot...since this is your problem. Think about whether you're ready for such a commitment if you cannot deal with the issues that come with it.
I cannot believe why and how some of you guys are such jerks. I don't know why you cannot stand being respectfully disagreed with, and if disagreed with why you think challenging the person for their life decisions is the right thing to do.
What's funny is disagreeing with you makes someone automatically a jerk. Why?
The root of the issue is as you stated previously - your life decision. You believe you were honked at for being in an interracial relationship. Now that you've gotten some real answers, its bothering you.
I see. So, according to that line of thinking, you should not call arrogance out, because that means you are not able to take the next stage in your life.
My next stage in this relationship has nothing to do with morons who did the honking. If a woman gets cat called on the street and is disturbed by it, does it mean she is not ready to go out into the world to work?
you have to pick your battles. Hope you don't pick unnecessary ones. Best of luck!
Being a little self reflective would help you a lot...since this is your problem. Think about whether you're ready for such a commitment if you cannot deal with the issues that come with it.
What's funny is disagreeing with you makes someone automatically a jerk. Why?
The root of the issue is as you stated previously - your life decision. You believe you were honked at for being in an interracial relationship. Now that you've gotten some real answers, its bothering you.
Where's the confidence?
This is my last response to you. Let me try to see if I can explain it one last time.
I initiate a thread because what I experienced was really strange for all of my life experiences (4-5 honks in 20-30min, when it was just the two of us)
I ask if other people in interracial relationships have experienced the same, because again, did not think something like that was to be expected in my city
It was so strange, some support around it would be nice as well - but I wouldn't die without it.
Plenty of people told me it is not a big deal, people honk - let it go.
You said the same thing twice.
So I responded to you specifically and responded to your use of how I "should" and "should not" feel
After your strong emphasis on your opinion, I said I disagreed with you.
Your response to me disagreeing with you was challenging me for what I am doing to deal with a problem like that on a social level.
As you chose to make it personal - got arrogant - of course, I called you out.
And now, here we are.
If you can go back and see, I most definitely have no problem with anyone disagreeing with me. If you can also go back and see, a few people who ARE in interrracial relationships have faced something similar but nothing to that degree.
Being disturbed by a disturbing occurrence does not mean you lack "confidence" or are unable to take the next step in your life.
The nastiness was most definitely uncalled for. I am refraining from expressing my anger at what you said to me because I know the depths of nastiness you can take it to and I have no desire to go there.
The nastiness was most definitely uncalled for. I am refraining from expressing my anger at what you said to me because I know the depths of nastiness you can take it to and I have no desire to go there.
Um, what nastiness?
You sound like all you're looking for is coddling...I don't coddle adults.
LOL. Here's the problem. You have no substance. How about you even TRY to respond to my post before that one. It is not that you don't "coddle", it is that you are only interested in being nasty and just want to exacerbate the issue here for purely your ego's sake.
LOL. Here's the problem. You have no substance. How about you even TRY to respond to my post before that one. It is not that you don't "coddle", it is that you are only interested in being nasty and just want to exacerbate the issue here for purely your ego's sake.
Good Luck.
Try to respond and indulge someone who's simply whining at being honked at? You want me to list points that will help you come to terms with this horrifying incident?
Okay.
You got honked at 5 times in 20 minutes.
1) Get over it.
2) See above.
Listen JT, maybe this race issue is a new one for you. Are you new in the country you're living in? It seems like it. But really, you've made a choice to be a part of something different. YOU did. Not anyone on this forum. You will face this and I am not sure how you're surprised...I am not. No one is.
Different people respond differently to things...I would never be so upset so I cannot understand this reaction in any way. I might be surprised but my reaction would be...who cares? I am happy...honk all you want.
I see. So, according to that line of thinking, you should not call arrogance out, because that means you are not able to take the next stage in your life.
My next stage in this relationship has nothing to do with morons who did the honking. If a woman gets cat called on the street and is disturbed by it, does it mean she is not ready to go out into the world to work?
