How much do your parents interfere in your lives?
Do they tell you what to eat, how to dress, what to be when you “grow up”, etc etc…
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oh siht PCG got grounded…again. 
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No, silly billy goose.
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When I was younger my parents never told me what to wear or how to do my hair. I went through some odd phases and had very, very short hair. But I've only ever had advice from my parents and never been told that I have to do anything the way they wanted me to. The only time my mother wanted to have some control was on Eid or some other cultural/religious event. I would wear some new shalvar kameez and both my parents would be, "Wah, wah, yay mari Pakistani beti ha." It was so easy to make them happy.
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if u dont like ur parents interefering - then get a job and move out. As long as ur in their house and payroll u gotta abide by their rules.
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I agree with the above statement when it comes to adult children. My parents were never “controlling”…they let me have freedom over who I became friends with, what to wear etc. BUT that doesn’t mean they didn’t make disapproving comments 24/7.
But once I moved out on my own, now my parents don’t try to control anything at all. Even the comments have stopped(of course, the main reason for that is that now that I live in a different city, 99.9% of the time they don’t know what I’m doing).
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I actually wish my mom wud ask aboutmy day ... she said a while ago that she knows i go tos chool/work and that's it that i'm not doing anything i shudn't be doing... its gone from having absolutely zero freedom (her picking me up very single day from school and riding with me on the bus) to a bit more... i'm nto complaining, i like having my freedom but i just wish she'd ask about my day n stuff, but instead when I come home, shes busy watching her dramas :(
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I guess they read her journal…
No more tennis classes for you PCG :nono:
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oye!!! I'm not grounded, k? Man, its been like centuries since I was last grounded.
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Well, I just came in this century so must have missed it…
Do your parents interfere in your life?
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When i was little, yeah i thought my parents were so interferring…but now looking back i think they were just parenting…when ur younger u need someone to “baby” u, i think that’s how they showed me they loved and cared about me…
But i remember being like 12 yrs old and wanting to be a social worker and my Mum said “no way!” I didn’t like nor understand that… anyway, in my family our parents have always interferred/had interest about wot classes we were taking and wot profession we wanted to go in…but now that we’re older and have rebelled long enough LOL, i think they r more laid back and don’t ask as many questions as they used to (as a result, it’s been easier for my now 12 yr. old brother!)…
My Mum was always picky about the food we ate and my Dad was always having a go at me about my studies…how to dress? yeah we got that too, still do sometimes but i think they see we’re mature enough to make our own decisions and be individuals, and not have them living thru us anymore making us the “little versions” of them!
And also like saimanyc said, my parents also love it when i wear Pakistani clothes, guess it’s sentimental to them and i don’t mind wearing them to make them happy once in a while 
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My mum tends to advise...she has her ideas about how i should be...what i should wear...what career etc...but she doesnt believe in forcing me to do anything...
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Sara if she doesn’t ask you… why dont you tell her how your day was?? maybe she feels you dont want to be asked.. and she probably feels a little sad the way you do???
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I have learned from experience that it's best in my interest to have my parents interfere in my life.
I'm told what to eat, but I don't necessarily listen. Therefore, I'm not the healthiest person. I often ask mom how to dress up when attending desi gatherings just to be on the safe side, as I usually don't know much about it. It always helps.
I don't think I've been told what to be when I grow up. I guess one of my parents would have appreciated if I had pursued medicine or engineering, but I ended up picking business, as that is what interests me the most.
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They used to interfere SO much. Yeah, I agree, looking back I think it was worth it, cuz God knows what trouble I would have gotten myself into. But still, there are some things that you just shouldn’t order your kids around about.
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I try to talk to her but then she tells me to shush up and let her watch her dramas :( and hten she yells at me, fed up and i feel stupid so its not even worth saying :(
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Nowadays, they try but don't always succeed. With some things yes with other things no.
But up to 3/4 years ago, they controlled most things in my life, even after my marriage. If once in a while I would make a decision on my own, they would 'fix' that decision again by making me do what they wanted.
When I was little, I did everything I was told. I remember when I was in my teens, I was very interested in literature and history, languages, stuff like taht,anything without maths, heehee, but my parents wouldn't let my study in that direction. I guess they wanted the best for me and believed I should follow a study that would give me a 'better' job. So I went to lab school, which was my third choice actually.
I'm a little sorry sometimes that I couldn't go in the literature/history direction, but not much. I liked working in my field too, so it wasn't that bad in the end.
But they made me make other decisions which later I regretted in life. Parents can't always be right. They are humans too after all. :)
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that sounds sooo much like my ammi Since Ammi and Abbu are always busy, I eitehr share with siblings and fiance or write in my journal. It helps.
And to answer PCG’s question, y parents esp Ammi has always told me waht to eat, or wear or wat to do or not to do. Sometimes I listen , sometimes i dont. I am at the age, where I feel I am old enough to make my own decisions and learn from my mistakes when I make them.
Rest Allah knows best.
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i get grounded every week but does that suppoz to mean i m gona learn from it ?
HELLLLLLLLLLL NAAAAA ! i am gona do the same thing and will try to get through without geting caught.
my parents say: no awara-gerdi, 5 time prayers, Quran everyday, noo doost, specially not the female one, no more loitering after 10, no car speeding, no more police tickets, no more fazool khercha n list goes on n on .. mentioning the fact they want me to be PERFECT KID EVER
p/s: but i never had communicating probz with my family .. they are always there for me .. my mom n dad both want me to talk to them abt every single thing goes down in my lyfe.
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Your parents should say:
- No GOOD GRADES!
- No Uni, you go work in the corner shop selling Marlboros.
- No good health, start shooting up cocaine son.
- No good girls, date strippers.
- No down time, you always have atleat 6 friends in your box room.
- No safe drivng, steal neighbors car and play dodge’em with cops.
You getting the drift little bambina? 