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Marriage is very easy.
All it takes is the right approach to compromise on differences and cherish the similarities.
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Yay! 200 post of stupidity.
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replace marriage with homosexuality and that’d be a true statement. 
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Talking of delusions, what about when you delude yourself that you're happy in your marriage for the sake of being married.
More power to anyone who can be single for the rest of their life because they are unable to find someone who they are "intellectually" compatible with and are not willing to compromise.
And if to be able to live with themselves, these single people who missed the marriage train need to think that married people are deluded into thinking they are happy simply because they are married, then by all means, I would happily let them think so. For how sad are their lives without this little ray of hope justifying their bad decision of no compromise.
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and what do u mean by that?
I guess for some being married to a real person as opposed to being married to a delusion is better, since they've no qualms about not honouring their vows and commitment. Emotional infidelity seems to be okay to them.
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Who are you trying to convince?
For some people, they can compromise on say, looks, income, social status but not mental compatibility.
Everyone has something they are not so willing to compromise on.
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Compatibility is not a mathematical equation that needs to be proper and through and through....
There are always compromises in marriage. Having a partner who is able to comprehend your POV makes these compromises easy..
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Do you realize you just kicked the “marriage” out of homosexuality. Two different things basically.
Great! 
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The question here is not anything other than "intellectual intercourse"
Great if people are not willing to compromise on it. Their life. But how does one measure intellect anyway? I'm sure these people arent going around asking for IQ levels, because at least that is quantifiable. Whatever issues you have when considering marriage, whatever criteria you have, if you are not willing to bend a little, chances are you will end up with nothing.
And there is no way in the world that you can ensure that if you are having a good conversation with a person now, he/she won't change afterwards.
Marriage has a way of levelling down everyone and everything. What matters most in holding a marriage together and yes, the happiness within a married couple, is the emotional commitment to see things through and to treat each other right. Everything else is a learned behaviour.
Who are you trying to convince?
For some people, they can compromise on say, looks, income, social status but not mental compatibility.
Everyone has something they are not so willing to compromise on.
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acha don't fret. marriage is just about cooking for hubby, having kids, looking pretty and spending his money.
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ha... enjoy the opportunity to strut around while you can.
If the time ever comes for you, life will teach you otherwise
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what i dont understand is why is someone saying intellectual compatibility is important to them taken as the equivalent of being inflexible, forever alone etc?
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what i dont understand is why is someone saying intellectual compatibility is important to them taken as the equivalent of being inflexible, forever alone etc?
Cos we havnt conformed nor are we trying to make babies which is apparently all there is a need for in a marriage. Oh and cos we're FREE and stuff.
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and what do u mean by that?
My intellectual pretensions and inflexibility don't permit me to either explain myself or you to understand - take your pick.
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My intellectual pretensions and inflexibility don't permit me to either explain myself or you to understand - take your pick.
If you have something to say, intellectual pretensions aren't what prevents you to say it, rather lack of guts.
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There's a very fine line between saying something worthy of the person who is able to comprehend it and just plain allowing it. Allow it Sehrysh.
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If you have something to say, intellectual pretensions aren't what prevents you to say it, rather lack of guts.
Funny enough, I had already said exactly what I wanted to say on the topic, it's all about what the reader chooses to "take" from the comment. Each individual based on their own frame of reference will read different meanings into a comment. The anonymity and vastness of the internet precludes me from knowing what another's frame of reference might be. I comment as I see fit, others comprehend as they see fit....But I digress, and I certainly wouldn't want to derail the thread.
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This thread is the best evidence that being married does not provide a person greater insights. Some of the (I assume) unmarried folks have psoted with way more wisdom than some of the married ones here - IMO.
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No sign of wisdom anywhere in sight, slinging snide potshots does not make anyone wiser, intellectually stimulating indeed. Battle of the egos is more like it.
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This thread is the best evidence that being married does not provide a person greater insights. Some of the (I assume) unmarried folks have psoted with way more wisdom than some of the married ones here - IMO.
ITA.