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^ What is ITA, Pepsi? Not up to date on the younger generations' abbreviations!
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^^ I totally agree :)
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Should I be worried this thread has surpassed the Veena Malik one. Cerebral women are just as lovable as their sexy, degenerate counterparts. YES!
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Self same delusions are the reasons for why people sit around single for a long long time. Married to their delusions instead of a real life person.
Dunno why you're getting so worked up. It's not like you're marrying me, you have a wonderful husband so why does it bother you what I think about relationships. Screw Chaibiskut and her elitism. Sounds like you're trying hard to convince yourself you've done the right thing. I recall you mentioning you don't necessarily have much in common with your other half but that you're happy. Good for you, I genuinely wish you all the best. But now you've turned into a cliche, wearing your nikahfied status like a badge of validation. I'm slightly embarrassed for you. Telling Stoppit that life would teach her otherwise was downright catty. Me no likey catty women.
No one's denying you're the relationship guru here. Forget me, I'll eat my IQ points. The day you told Bob's unwed mother to keep at it because "the sex gets better," is the day I knew you were awesome. That's what marriage is all about. I'll defer to you when it comes to indulging jack rabbits who call weddings off because shucks, turns out the big O only happens in erotic literature.
I feel sorry for Bob, I really do. That kid needs another place to gestate.
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What a name-dropping fest. Chaibiskut (or maybe its just me) is sheer pretentiousness.
Sarcasm does not a fest make. Pretentious men are handed legendary internet status, pretentious women get axed. Oh, the injustice. Since when did posturing become exclusively male territory? Tell you what, the day I commit the Shirk of likening myself to Stewie Griffin is the day you can tell me to pull my head out of my ass. If you're going to blow that blasphemous horn, you better be the God of Satire Himself. Props; your alter ego was half witty. This version just sounds bitter. You got banned, we know. Woe is you. Now grow some apples of steel and shine like the star you know you are.
ps. Nobody cares whether I strike your fancy or not. Objectification is passe.
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OK now i am seriously CONFUSED - is biscuit a guy or a gurl because either of the below two are horribly mistaken or one of em is hiding something else ... entirely ... further thoughts reveal very disturbing possibilities
Disturbing = Intriguing? We can hardly contain ourselves, can we. My imam told me pious brothers aren't supposed to get mileage out of visuals like that. Let's keep those thoughts kosher, brother.
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You DESPERATELY need to learn to handle criticism and try and see where others are coming from, even if you dont agree with them.
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psychologically speaking happiness from marriage cannot be delusional i.e. it is genuine feeling since one's subconscious self is dominating
WhatchutalkinaboutWillis. Philosophy and psychology are for intellectual wannabes, remember. They don't make a marriage work. What is this Freudian hogwash about the subconscious self? Pretentious, I dare say. What elitist theories are we going to pontificate next, castration anxiety? Which afflicts none of the male posters here. Mumbo jumbo, high-falutin' horse manure. I hate big words, they make my brain bone hurt.
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[Note of thanks to Niksik and Muzna for being cool thus far. I've bitten my fingers as much as possible and can only behave as lady-like as my gentlemanly counterparts. Speaking of infractions, I got slapped with a $300 speeding ticket today for what it's worth. If the cop didn't look like Michael Vartan I would've shoved my driver's license down his throat. Yep. Women are just as superficial as men. Screw mental compatibility.]
:D
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Dunno why you're getting so worked up. It's not like you're marrying me, you have a wonderful husband so why does it bother you what I think about relationships. **Screw Chaibiskut and her elitism. **Sounds like you're trying hard to convince yourself you've done the right thing. I recall you mentioning you don't necessarily have much in common with your other half but that you're happy. **Good for you, I genuinely wish you all the best. **But now you've turned into a cliche, wearing your nikahfied status like a badge of validation. I'm slightly embarrassed for you. Telling Stoppit that life would teach her otherwise was downright catty. Me no likey catty women.
No one's denying you're the relationship guru here. Forget me, I'll eat my IQ points.** The day you told Bob's unwed mother to keep at it because "the sex gets better," is the day I knew you were awesome. **That's what marriage is all about. I'll defer to you when it comes to indulging jack rabbits who call weddings off because shucks, turns out the big O only happens in erotic literature. I feel sorry for Bob, I really do. That kid needs another place to gestate.
When someone is going to come along on a public forum and begin posting directly towards me in a negative manner ("at the risk of pissing you off demesne" etc) I will post in a manner which you may construe as me "getting worked up". Yes I am not marrying you, and it does not bother me how you think about relationships. You're entitled to your opinion just as I am entitled to my opinion that such ideas will get a person nowhere close to building a successful relationship. When you can prove me wrong by example, you may come up with a rebuttal to that statement.
As for badges of validation, since life partners are being discussed, and since your opening post is about marriage, and I am presuming a successful and** happy** marriage, you pinned that badge on me yourself. Yes, thank you. In these two areas I have been blessed.
As for Stoppit and whether life would teach her otherwise, let's wait for circumstances to prove that wrong. Life does prove idealists and nonconformists wrong. That is a basic fact. Life isn't a bed of roses for everyone, and no marriage, love or otherwise, is without ups and downs. Any person unwilling to compromise will learn that the hard way.
**As for Bob's unwed mother, and indulging jackrabbits who call weddings off because of lack of a big O:
a) the wedding was not called off
b) in case you haven't noticed, I am a big propagator of making marriages work rather than kicking in the towel because things got a little bit tough.
I'm sure neither Bob nor the people concerned over there give two hoots as to your sympathy towards their situation. And your allusion to that was absolutely unnecessary and uncalled for, as are most of the things you post.**
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Demesne, if you really think that was 'negative' you need to grow a sense of humor. You had the choice to steer clear of this thread if you find me so unsavory. You initiated, I indulged you in kind. We don't have the luxury to hit the report-post button in real life and maybe Time shows us that the hard way. If you don't mind me saying, it's presumptuous on your part to consistently insist anyone here doesn't know how to compromise or is delusional. Then again, you're cute little trouble, forever saddling up her high horse, saving us lost souls. May the good Lord break the mettle of the wayward Idealists and Non-conformists and bring them on the straight path, amen.
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Southie might as well be the lone gentleman at a flaming frat party. I'm sorry you had to witness this food fight. Feel free to fling a lemon pie or two.
Merry Xmas everyone. Try not to kill each other. Because Jesus loves you.
xoxo.
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Demesne, if you really think that was 'negative' you need to grow a sense of humor. You had the choice to steer clear of this thread if you find me so unsavory. You initiated, I indulged you in kind. We don't have the luxury to hit the report-post button in real life and maybe Time shows us that the hard way. If you don't mind me saying, it's presumptuous on your part to consistently insist anyone here doesn't know how to compromise or is delusional. Then again, you're cute little trouble, forever saddling up her high horse, saving us lost souls. May the good Lord break the mettle of the wayward Idealists and Non-conformists and bring them on the straight path, amen.
Sigh, I'm not going to go all the way back to prove that I did not initiate.
The compromising and delusional comments are not directed towards everyone here, but rather :P the uncompromising and delusional folks.
Wayward idealists learn their lessons in time, it is called growing up.
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so much to read - forget it
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The question here is not anything other than "intellectual intercourse." Great if people are not willing to compromise on it. Their life. But how does one measure intellect anyway? I'm sure these people arent going around asking for IQ levels.
This is what we've been trying to tell you for the past 2 weeks. The title is a lyrical reference. Is this really how you think regular people mingle with others who are like-minded? Have you never clicked with anybody at a party, male or female, without asking them their IQ percentile? Really?
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And there is no way in the world that you can ensure that if you are having a good conversation with a person now, he/she won't change afterwards.
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The fact that you think "good conversation" is like a changing fad for the seasons is the reason you're still lost after 12 pages. What does good communication mean to you? Banter in the right ambience at a nice restaurant? Is that what you think it is? For that matter, how do you know your spouse won't swing to either religious extremes or become an atheist - anything is possible right? How do you know you won't fight over how to raise children? How do you know you'll still care 20 years in? Does this knowledge have nothing to do with being mentally aligned? Actively knowing who your spouse is?
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What matters most in holding a marriage together and yes, the happiness within a married couple, is the emotional commitment to see things through and to treat each other right. Everything else is a learned behaviour.
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You can't "learn" to have the same interests or the same belief or value system. You either have that common foundation to work with or you don't. What is emotional commitment? The oxytocin produced during physical intimacy? You do realize people automatically create emotional bonds just by having sex - which is why prematurely sexual/emotional relationships collapse because there's no substance to hold on to after the honeymoon period. Which is why otherwise incompatible people become entangled in emotionally dependent unions. Can a marriage thrive (not just survive) on just an emotional quotient? Why are you so averse to 2 people being rationally or non-sexually in tune with each other, I'm genuinely fascinated by your condescension towards anything "mental."
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He means cerebral contusions caused by blunt impact trauma. It happens when 2 people are mentally aligned :
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Tea and biscuits, you had me at ‘intercourse’ :loveandallthatjazz:
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Man o man this thread has ripped my Intellectual virginity into bits and pieces 
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The female race at its best.
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^ with respect, there are plenty of participants from the male "race" also. But I agree with you, the discourse has been quite interesting.