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^Uh-oh, thats not very nice of him....what lead to this name calling fest?
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He has called me worse things than dog. You are talking about tehzeeb, well you do not know him. He is not exactly Akbar from Nakhlao.
Well why are you so hell bent on making it work with him then? He calls you far worse names, gives you the silent treatment for months, speaks to you in a scary man voice...yet you refer to him as your "lover"...you're not making much sense here lady.
Do you have such little respect for yourself that you are willing to put up with such demeaning behavior? Life is too short..
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He has called me worse things than dog. You are talking about tehzeeb, well you do not know him. He is not exactly Akbar from Nakhlao.
^ Well then you guys have bigger problems in your relationship than just name-calling and insults.
The name-calling and insulting obviously goes both ways and there's no justification for it - doesn't matter who started and who responded. Instead of addressing it as a problem, your posts implies that you're trying to outdo one another in the bad-tameezi department.
What you might want to do (with him) is figure out what a healthy, respectful and loving relationship looks like and work towards that.
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he fears you find him unattractive and repulsive now. Thats why he is keeping a distance. You need to do something that assures him you find him attractive and were just trying to piss him off.
Imagine if a guy jokingly or in anger taunts his wife on her small breasts/butt, chubbiness, wrinkles, etc. She wouldn't want to get intimate with him again.
We are not at that stage yet in our relationship where we are allowed to be intimate. And he knows I can't live without him that i get so depressed when we fight and he is angry with me. I don't care if tomorrow he becomes a big unattractive wrestler or calls me the worse names on this planet because i will still find him attractive and be in love with him. He knows all of this.
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Set him free..and forget about him till he returns.
He'll return only if he realizes his mistakes,which is a good thing.If he doesn't,you deserve better.
And you gain respect by giving others respect,shouldn't say out bad stuff..you're indirectly allowing him to do the same to you then.Don't Complain about the consequences then :)
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LEAVE HIM .....
out of my personal experience......i got a tad bit late ... got married had a baby and then dumped him. Dont make it that late... kuch log kabhi chnage nahin hote.... :(
That's awful, just ignore his immature comments. Be happy and get on with life, find some hobbies, when he see's your getting on, being happy and ignoring his strops as if they don't exist. He'll b like hey what's happening here, and might start respecting u a bit more. But before doing this talk to him face to face and tell him that you are finding his behaviour towards you inappropriate. And his vulgar words are disgusting, that this is no way to speak to his wife. And tell him that u guys need to make a pact not to argue, c wht he says.
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Desire is right, send him one sorry message, without saying things like you cant live without him. But apologize and say you love him, then stay away for some time. Its' going to be very hard but do it. He will cool down eventually and then miss you and come back. Sometimes you need to create distance for the other person to realize your importance.
Even though three months is a long time, his parents behavior is positive. When did your parents last contact his parents?
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say love him when she doesnt love him....
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And he knows I can't live without him that i get so depressed when we fight and he is angry with me. I don't care if tomorrow he becomes a big unattractive wrestler or calls me the worse names on this planet because i will still find him attractive and be in love with him. He knows all of this.
Lusi: where did you assume she doesn't love him?
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Every time I enter this thread to give a genuine reply, the fatty baldy ugly dog thing gets to me. Hahahahahahaha.
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Salam to all members. Ive just been a visitor for the past couple of weeks but now i have run into a big problem with my soon to be husband. We got into a stage in one of our conversations where we started insulting each other, it just escalated from me laughing at something but i didnt mean anything mean by it. After he insulted me later on i called him a fatty baldy ugly dog and i know it sounds really bad but i was just reacting because i felt hurt. Though now he is acting as if i went overboard and saying that since that day he wants to rip me apart. It has been three months and he is still not talking to me and when i try to he starts screaming and yelling and cursing at me. I still love him. How can i go about repairing the relationship from here.
You haven't spoken for 3 months?!
You're not even married yet the cursing, yelling and screaming have started!!!
Girl you have your own answer on what you should do!
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He just messaged me that this wound that I gave him will never heal only the pain will lessen over time. Thats all he said he is still not talking to me like before. I feel really depressed, what should I do ?
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prick your finger. have 5ml blood in a tiny container. use crow feather to write an apology, using the blood as ink. Send him the letter.
Also, send an MMS showing how you bled, so he knows you are not using ketchup to fool him.
That shall melt his heart. Inshallah.
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He just messaged me that this wound that I gave him will never heal only the pain will lessen over time. Thats all he said he is still not talking to me like before. I feel really depressed, what should I do ?
sounds like he is a real crybaby. go give him a good kick on his fat butt to close this "wound that never heals".
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He is threatening me and telling me about karma now. I am really shaken up, i thought things would get better over time but he is just getting worse.
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I suggest you both seek psychological support from a pir or alim. This will require both sides to work together to figure out this entire mess.
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dude talk to your parents. if he is acting like this before marriage, wonder what he will do once you are married.he has no right to verbally and emotionally abuse you.
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prick your finger. have 5ml blood in a tiny container. use crow feather to write an apology, using the blood as ink. Send him the letter.
Also, send an MMS showing how you bled, so he knows you are not using ketchup to fool him.
That shall melt his heart. Inshallah.
WHAT THE HELL?! That's more freaky than the OP...