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^^^Haha..you are funny, you still have to show nakkhra and play hard to get even after marriage. People like things that are hard to get. When I asked my wife why she chose me she said because I was the only guy who didn’t chase after her.
Re: Insight needed on this rishta/relationship
Hi everyone..
Here’s an update on the situation. The guy’s parents have still made no contact, however, his sister made contact with me to tell me that her parents loved me and our family - but then they did isthikara, and now have ‘doubts’ and therefore, are unsure of what step to take next. I’m so confused. My family and I have done isthikara as well, and ever since then things moved in a positive direction, we went all the way back home to meet them etc everything seemed great. The sister said she felt it was her responsibility to tell me because she didn’t want me to think I was being ‘judged’ for anything else. Her parents’ silence is because of their isthikara result? I don’t get it, honestly. 
This is really bothering me! Is it a yes, a no? A maybe…? I’ve been making tons of dua day and night for what’s best, and there still seems to be no clear signs.
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I’m sorry 
. That was pretty insensitive of them. Just see it as a no because noone will take a chance after they do the Isthikara and it turns out to be negative. Obviously, everything else was loved about you except for the results of the prayer. Are your parents looking for other rishtas? Don’t stop or let this one bring you down.
Re: Insight needed on this rishta/relationship
Continue to make dua, but make it so that Allah gives you what is best for you! We’ll never be sure if they said the isthikhara thing instead of saying no or because it actually came out negative. I have seen couples get married and live good lives w/o doing isthikhara, others that did isthikhara that ended in divorce and a family that had a negative isthikhara but got their daughter married anyways. Things have been going well so far for them. Isthikhara is just a dua you make to ask Allah to guide you and for Him to put barakah in your decisions. I’ve heard you should rely on the feeling and if things are going well and with ease then to go for it, more so than relying on the dream because our dreams can sometimes be affected by our thoughts or fears. This is something the family should be contacting ulema for because many people don’t know the proper etiquette of doing isthikara.
You have to take the situation as it is. If initially they are having so many doubts then what can you expect of the future. It is not your responsibility to clear their doubts. You and your family have done your best by visiting them and were cordial and dedicated the whole time. I would recommend to keep looking, don’t get too attached to the situation and have faith that things WILL be for the best. Let this one go. If it’s yours it will come back, I promise. In the mean time make your life great by making great experiences and not spending it over some people that don’t value you.
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They are playing mind games, many controlling mothers won’t marry their sons to the girls the boy likes as it makes them feel that she will lose power over the hen that lays the golden egg, why would you want to marry a pansy with an evil mother anyways, you are better off with people who appreciate you.