How do you deal with other peoples’ insecurities?
as in people who are always accusing u of hurting them or doing something, god knows what, when u did nothing (conciously or subconciously) against them?
when u try talknig to them bout it, they end up calling u nasty names and baseless accusations.
Are these people psychologically disturbed? Attention-seekers? or like playing victim?
Stay away?
Just smack them square in the face!! If anyone calls me any kind of name. I'll kick their ass into oblivion. heck I'll kick their ass just for fun regardless. :D:D:D
Faisal, easier said than done. Over the past year, I had one such individual in my life. Off the top of my head, I can think of 4 different times she falsely accused me of something which left me dumbstruck, at how she could come up with such a notion. All of which were negative, against her and where she felt like the injured party.
Actually, I grew extremely fed up of it and basically started distancing myself from her. Some more accusations came flying my way until eventually she got the message and got stuffed.
Good riddance! 
^ Good going Mehnaz..
i think insecure people are part of our lives
i have a friend who doesnt accuse me of things or call my nasty names, but her insecurity disturbs me.. its just a never ending cycle.. and i wonder is it to do with family probs or what.. hmm
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There you go. "Stay Away" wali advice is still valid. Sooner or later.
Sadzzz, you are right. Insecure people are a part of our lives.
The main thing to remember is that it is the insecure person's problem, not ours. Insecure people are excellent 'victims,' and play on this to make you feel guilty if you ever dare try to question them.
I had a friend who treated me with constant verbal abuse all the time. I always felt sorry for her as she didn't have many friends. She also told me that she had suffered from annorexia when she was younger. Due to this illness she was diagnosed to be on medication and frequent hospital visits for treatment, which put her through severe mood swings.
She would verbally abuse me, in that I mean as you have mentioned accuse me of saying and doing things which have in some way deeply hurt her(which makes no sense to me as I have never done anything to hurt her.) I would always feel extremely guilty to say anything back to her because of what she had been through in her childhood. Due to my silence the abuse got worse and worse. Until other people starting noticing and pointing out to me that my so called friend was not treating me very nicely. Instead she was putting me down in front of others all the time. Accusations would be hurled at me about hurting her.
Basically, it reached a point where I couldn't take any more. The so called friend was fighting her own demons and taking it out on me. Her insecurity was too much for me to handle. With no choice left I had to end our freindship.
^ wise choice Fab :k:
Ive grown up with insecure peopel myself, its like as though i attract them. However, i myself havent been their abuse target.. lekin there are other ways they can hurt u. Like pointing out how fat u r (even if ur not) or how badly u dress.. things like that.. just to make themselves feel more beautiful and wanted
Exactly Sadzzz!
I tend to attract insecure people too. At least we can recognize them and know that their words and behaviour how ever derogatory are there insecurties screaming out loud!
^ yeap... if u can realise that then its easier to deal with their selfish behaviour
ive seen insecurity in another form as well.. when people who are insecure bout the way they look or dress, they let others lead their lives.. they are easily misled into doing stupid things and also feel guitly at any given point.. and then end up blaming their failures on other people... its sad
I'm not thinking here but I guess I'd either ignore this sort of behaviour/person or if its a good friend of mine, I'd turn it all into a joke :D
How to deal with insecure people? Show them what true, ultimate insecurity is like. Hold a nice, big chakoo at the throat of an insecure person when they accuse you. They'll either go insane or become very secure. In either case, they won't be making any more accusations.
i'll agree with Faisal bhai..
if u can take on the project to have a heart big enough and that much patience and if u care enough then help them and dont let what they say affect u
else just stay away
because their attitude might even make u angry and u might even end up committing sins liek getting angry or impatient because of them...
waise...we've all got our insecurities i guess...but we shud try not to let them affect our words and actions...its a constant jahad...not an easy task
i think if everyone lost weight, half the insecurities in this world would be gone
and my wording sounds totally fobbish but oh VELL
^ i cant help being fat 
1.) ur not fat
wait..are u fat? i dont rememba
^ i have flab… that counts
b/w how are ya? havent spoken to u in ages 
lol loser…u mean ur not a twig? no one wants a twig, a girl needs to be vuluptuous and curvy
im well Alh. how are you, chubby checkers? 
p.s. i bet this turns all the hormone raging monkies on
yeah.. i guess thats what i mean… 
im good sweetz.. i havent been on for awhile.. relos over hogging the pc..
p.s im sure the and is turning them on
to sadzz:
yeh aik baat to bata, is this just a phase,
or is yr world really full of insecure, not-able-to-take-criticism, attention-seeking, narrow-minded and opinionated poeple no.
come on, is evryone else u know just this immature and "insecure" (how i just love this word!) and generally unstable, or is it that u r just too calm, mature, secure and stable, and pragmatic?
dont take it too personally, but somehow i think its bad to analyse and quantify ppl too much. thora bauhat chalta hay, laikin is level pay its not healthy. :)