im "just too calm, mature, secure and stable, and pragmatic" :)
my world is full of wierd people... me being number one
to phir, i suggest kay, write the last line before posting on topics like the 'insecurity' of ppl in general.
its good to always, n i say always, to mention the context .
(its sad u know, but the ppl in the saner worlds like to discriminate btw the two :D )
If poeple are "insecure" I doubt they need pompous people judging them to top off their worries.
insecured people are weird and can goto hell for all i care!
V well said i agree :k:
I had a friend who I had known since college. The girl always somehow or another managed to dump all her insecurities on others, me being in the same circle of friends. What ended up happening eventually is that she alienated herself from us because as time went on we would stop inviting her to our events and outings. After a while I lost contact with the girl altogether. A couple of years ago I bumped into her at a gathering and our friendship renewed itself. Well, a few months went by and I started noticing and hearing about her mood swings and the fact that she was always needy for other people to endlessly listen to her problems and validate her behavior. As soon as I saw this trend resume I was sorry I ever renewed my relationship with her. Basically I phased her out once again and this time for good.
Negativity/insecurity breeds contempt and in my view is also contagious. It is best not to have negative people in your live and to always be around positive, upbeat individuals who can add something positive to your life.
hate insecure people..i dont care if u look like a male cow with a third nipple, be proud of it
dobara shuru!
You women are very unforgiving and so not helpful. What’s wrong with helping an insecure friend gain her security. You are so insecure and selfish that unless there is something to gain from a friendship, you won’t even keep one.
Is it really worth trying to maintain a friendship with someone who keeps making false accusations against you cause they feel bad about themselves? No matter how much you try and help them, you get a slap in your face in return. I certainly don’t have the patience anymore. 
ub ^^ say kuch "high morality" seekhoa yaaroan.
(at least on GS :D )
insecure ppl will be insecure unless they realize what potential they have or COULD have, its upto them to change themselves
It’s ok if you have nothing to gain from a friendship but when u start losing in a friendship then thats a problem.
its not about forgiving and forgetting..
we all have insecurities, i doubt there is anynoe here who isnt insecure about one thing or another.. but its how u go abotu dealing with that insecurity is the issue..
if ur gonan put somenoe else down ALL THE TIME just cus u dont live up to ur own expectations.. then thats wrong
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*Originally posted by sadzzz: *
its not about forgiving and forgetting..
we all have insecurities, i doubt there is anynoe here who isnt insecure about one thing or another.. but its how u go abotu dealing with that insecurity is the issue..
if ur gonan put somenoe else down ALL THE TIME just cus u dont live up to ur own expectations.. then thats wrong
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well said sadzz :)
I try to limit by contact and my interaction with them. If I have to interact with them, I keep it at a very superficial level - hi, how you doin', how are things and that's it. I never discuss anything beyond that. If they try to bring up anything on purpose, I change the topic or act like I did not understand their 'hints' and 'references'
It is not easy, but you learn to play your cards right.