insecure about my skin colour

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cus u need to love the skin ur in to make urself feel beautiful before anything else..

not trying to be negative… what im trying to say is makeup aint the solution to the isse on hand

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Re: insecure about my skin colour

Get a tan. That will solve your problem.

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This things about skin color and rishtas and all that sounds really stupid.
Just my opinion.

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u always say that:hehe:

kon hai sanwali saloni :hmmm:

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Re: insecure about my skin colour

Use Fair&Lovely. It works like magic.

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coz u r spanish :@:

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Re: insecure about my skin colour

Well.

Here men seem to die after tanned 'glowy' girls....

MasAllah beauty is within you. If you have an ugly personality being gori or kali isn't going to make a difference. No guy is worth the time if he is going to judge you by your skin tone.

Currently my cousin is going through the same process of rishta's. They email her pics and guy emails his pics, and if they don't respond which has been happening alot do you know how much it knocks her down?

FUNNY thing is , all the goray and kalay die after her. Seriously, when we go out they are always trying to 'chat' her up or something. In every job she has done her co-workers always fancy her. ( she dosen't respond)

She is really reserved and very religous ( not to extent of covering yet) just a really really nice person. But she is slightly darker than the rest of us , but she is the most prettiest out of all of us cousins.

Allah made you as you are , and you are beautiful regardless. I keep telling my cousin this, but you know what it really knocks your confidence down when it shouldn't do. These rishtay walay stuck up sadistic people are UGLY. Ugly in their heart and minds so count yourself LUCKY your not stuck with them :)

InsAllah everyone has a partner out there for them, even if you have to wait for 100000000 rishta's to go by , you will find the one who deserves a gem like you. Ameen.

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ahahaha a story. Once we had this guy come to my house for my cousins rishta (my dad is her mamu), this freak of nature ' dr janghir' ( not even a dr) was like i want a girl thats gori with light brown hair and blue eyes. ( not saying that is attractive) .. himself he was a fat short hairy kala man.

My dad and chacha jee kicked him out of the house. Literally.

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Re: insecure about my skin colour

LOL^
Uff, good going on your mamu's part. He deserved to get kicked to the curb. As for skin color, there's no way you're not gonna find a guy. I have a friend who often gets confused for being Sri Lankan who is happily engaged to her bf. If the guy is even a tiny bit educated, he'll look beyond the skin color. Plus, I'm a girl and I love guys who are tan. In fact, I make my fiancé tan so he's goldeny and sexy, ahem. Of course there are guys like that too who prefer tanned girls.

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You know what? This crazy obsession with skin colour is everywhere. People in the east want to get fairer and people in the west want to get darker. We're conditioned to feel insecure about our skin colour just so we can buy into these bogus beauty products that claim to work the way we want them to.

My advice? Forget about skin colour, as long as your skin is healthy and glowing then skin colour is irrelevant. If a guy wants a wife with fair skin then there's nothing you can do about that. But, if that's the only thing he's looking for in a wife then you're better off without him.

Oh and like other people have said being confident and being comfortable in your own skin is easily the most attractive thing so don't let these people get you down. Learn to love your skin...it's with you for the rest of your life.

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kala-ganj-mota, ultimate combo!

This is why i abhor this rishta vishta arranged marriages stuff sooo much! Why cant two ppl fall in love and do it like they're supposed to, propose and get married! This superficial stuff doesnt come into play if that happens

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dude, go Michael Jackson.

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he had a skin disorder not a complex.

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Re: insecure about my skin colour

I thought he got his skin bleached ?

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Everyone has their own personal preferences for what they find attractive and beautiful, but it needs to remain a personal preference rather than some universal standard of beauty. The problem with the skin color thing is that people openly discuss it as some inferiority, rather than simply a difference.

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don’t be insecure about such a thing, and as far as beauty is concerned features matter more than color anyway..naomi campbell is one of the richest model and rated as one of the most beautiful and shes black..

seriously if someone likes you only because of superficial reasons…then to hell with them…who are they to judge you anyway..don’t allow that and keep your confidence high…as someone here said..love yourself, people will love you!..don’t let yourself believe that you wont find a good guy cuz of your complexion…cuz things happen the way you think and expect them to…hope for the best to happen and nothing can stop it from happening..

dont worry..I wish you find the guy of your dreams very soon IA :hugz:

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Re: insecure about my skin colour

I'll personally prefer a better figure over fairer skin :p

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Michael Jackson had patches of vitiligo and tried to bleach the rest of his skin so it would be one uniform colour instead of bits of brown and white.. His son also seems to have developed the condition:

To the OP, imo the** mums** seem to be so obsessed with skin colour whilst the guys themselves often just want someone pretty (as in attractive features) and a person they feel some** ‘spark’ **with so I wouldn’t worry too much about it.. My brother was like this and specifically told my mum when she was looking to stop pushing the pale pale girls his way when that wasn’t his personal preference, in the end he married a girl who is medium brown and drop dead gorgeous.. I really wish desi mums would stop peddling these myths that allll desi guys want a white skinned subservient doormat..

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Trust me there is a prince charming out there who will love you for what you are...this is how Allah (swt) has designed the whole thing...just be thankful for what you have and I have learnt from your words that you are thankful...Allah bless you and just hang in there...

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Well if your living abroad you can always go back to Pakistan THEY don't discriminate they will marry anyone to go abroad.

but sarcasm aside tan skin actually very attractive its valued in the west people pay big bucks to look like you. you should be happy. :)