I’m just wondering..how many clothes, jewellery sets etc..do inlaws give for girl ..?
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It varies ... sometimes they give a lot, sometimes they give nothing. It is usually discussed amongst the parents and agreed upon in advance between both parties .... however, each family has their own way of doing things. I don't believe there are any set rules or amounts.
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When I got married, we never had any discussions because we didn't have any expectations or demands for the mahr, clothes, jewellery etc. We just left it up to them.
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^ ditto with hinnna....
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It depends on the family.
Punjabi families i know in laws give everything from underwhere, naras, suits/saris, shoes, jewelery and make up…
My memon in laws gave clothes, shoes and jewelery but asked me mom if they should give more, to be sure.
Really really depends on the family and money.
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Is it common that they take her shopping and she chooses what she likes? I wouldn’t wanna be stuck with something ugly 
Also, larki-walay give gifts to the guys side of the family , to his bro, sis, parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc etc, whereas the guy’s side is only required to give to the grl directly… why is that ? 
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i personally think it depends on the family...if their rich and tha'ts their only son..then yes ur gonne get tons of stuff..i know this one wedding where the bride got 101 suits plus gold, shoes and stuff...
if they have other sons then u would probably get a lot of stuff but not as much as you would get if he was the only son
-again this is a punjabi perspective...dont know what pakistani ppl do:)
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Punjabi families i know in laws give everything from underwhere, naras, suits/saris, shoes, jewelery and make up…
My family are guilty of this…was watching my aunts wedding video the other night and u can see the nara’s on display…it had me in histerics 
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i think discussion with ur in-laws would be a good idea about what they will give u
i would wanna do that. just to make sure about things
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i personally believe that there shouldn't be any giving or taking of things - why do it? if the in-laws want to give something to their daughter in law 'khushi mein' ..by all means, but don't make it extremely extravagant, nor should they expect anything from the girl's side..
like how sara mentioned that the girls family has to give clothes and what not to the guy's entire family ..that's just a waste of money. not like the girl's family isn't stressed out enough, that they now have to spend more money on useless things.
these are all silly rasmein that we've just adopted...
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hmm we didn’t give gifts to ALL of his family members, only a few- his immediate and one for his mami who was living with them at the time. So I don’t think you really have to give something to every single member of his family. And as for the guy’s side only giving something to the girl, that’s not necessarily always the case. At least when I got married it wasn’t like that. My family got stuff from hubs’ family too.
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every family is different. don't count the gifts (which is what they are); be thankful for them -- and consider quality over quantity.
i had
1 gharara (shadi)
1 angharka (valima)
4 shalwar kamiz
3 heavy saris
2 heavy sets (one plain gold and one with rubies and pearls)
several dressy sweaters and things i could use for work and parties here
make up set (which i selected)
dressy shoes
several purses
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Nothing if you're gori :(
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^ Awww 
Well at least you know how not to treat ure future bahus!! 
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I think it's really tacky to set out all the items your in-laws bring. We never pulled out or showed anyone anything. My in-laws were very generous but I didn't need to prove that to anyone. I never understood that custom and I've never seen it done before.
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^ I’m soooo tempted to say that paki weddings aren’t exactly known for thier class and elegance.. but i wont say it 
Last yr for my cousins wedding, his sister would take out the luggage, unfold each dress, show it, fold it, and put it back in.. there were 30 somethin suits in there, shoes n sweaters n stuff.. she wud do this for everrrrryyyyoneeee who asked, relatives, even neighbors, and i admired her patience to do all of it.. I would never go through all this trouble, becoz i think this tradition is tacky and rude.. and its not just with weddings, whenever i go shoppng, everyone asks to see what I bought, they’ll show what they bought etc.. i don’t like to do that anymore, but they think of it as being rude if you DON’T
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offtopic REGARDING that . .. but if someone is gonna pull my bride-side’s gifted underwear with my initials on it, i will pull a faizy 
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My mother in law really didn't want to display any of the outfits because she felt everyone should see them the first time when I wore them, for full effect. She felt the same way about my mangni clothes. And most people don't really display clothes on either side of the families.
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I am not married yet but have done my shopping. I shopped for my bari as well as my jahez. And it was upto me to get whatever amount of things I wanted and what quality within a budget that they gave us. And it was more than sufficient , Allhamdulillah when they didnt need to even do it.
My mother says that when she got married, her family bought gifts for each and every relative of Abbu -his immdediate family, khala, khalus, taya, tayis etc . I dont feel its appropriate to burden my family for this so for my wedding InshaAllah, Ammi has only bought gifts for his immediate family only although they insists we should save the money to use towards something me and him can actually benefit with. But my inlaws also buy gifts for my family so its not only one sided.
I guess times are changing and hopefully changing for the best!
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Only if more people thought like that :) That's one of the reason I don't want to have the whole mehndi/bari/rasam thing because everyone wants to display the clothes and then comment on it. It is such a fazool rasam.