Re: Inlaws showing up unannounced
^I second Rehas comment about the Dawats.
Also, do you work? If you mentioned that sorry I didn’t catch it. If you don’t maybe they feel you are fariiq enough to entertain kids and what not.
I think alot of families operate in a similar way-my family in England don’t (thankfully). We call family before visiting and ensure noone has plans. One of my uncles makes it clear hes busy even if hes watching a movie with his kids that it’s his quality time with his children-noone visits him then. We like seeing each other; but not if it intrudes on quality time of couples/family. I like to see my family, but at the same time I understand that if one side starts operating the culture of sudden drop ins the whole family will follow.
If your husband is okay with the situ and actually likes it (apart from being tired) it maybe a case of adjusting to their nature or when you have children of your own InshAllah calling family in advance to see if they are available before sending kids over etc.
If their sudden visit actually gets in the way of time you two have as a couple (quality) and it is effecting you I think you would be a wise woman to chat your husband and let him know. The last thing you want is to grow apart over silly sleepovers.
If all else fails and you are home alone when your sudden guests arrive grab your coat when you open the door and say ‘oh I was on my way out-catch you later’. I actually know someone who did this. Her jitani stopped dropping in at dinner time with 6 kids, 2 son in laws and 4 grandkids.
Princess, I do have a full time job. Hubby and I work demanding hours.
He’s a total family guy and loves being around his family. His family is the type that loves to hang out together 24/7 and does not understand the concept of being introverted and wanting your own quiet time and space (me). So he loves it when they’re all together. While him and I do get some quality time together, I think it’s not enough.
And LOL on your last comment about pretending to be going out the door
