Sorry to differ you and don't take it serious as we are talking other person not you.
Here sometimes might be jealousy but mostly control problem.
Girl want to control and mom + family want to contro.
Mom + family of guy think they have lost control and loose everything. They think unka beta uska ho gia. Jubkay wo yay naheen sochteen kay Unka beta apni wife ka husband banta hai beta naheen aur na hi bhai. Aap ki as a maan apni value rehti hai aur bahan ki apni value rehti hai bus aik aur family member add hoti hai yani ub uski biwi.
Sara problem control ka hai chahay kisi taraf say ho Larki ki taraf say ya guy family ki taraf say.
They feel like they have lost control.
Bechara guy tch tch. I feel sorry for them. Dono taraf say kick partay hain aksar usko apnay apnay taraf karnay kay liaay.
I have made the same point many times before in other threads regarding issues with mothers-in-law.
What you don't seem to understand is that the fear of losing control is CAUSED by INSECURITY.........as I have ALREADY mentioned ABOVE. The psychological ROOT for fear of losing control over someone is INSECURITY. Tomato....Tomaaato.