inlaws choosing wedding dress :(

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Re: inlaws choosing wedding dress

@yanzala

awww…you know what the first time i had this talk with my husband and when he told me that i will have to wear what his sisters and bhabi chose for me i cried soooooo much. partially because i wasn’t gonna get a dress of my dream and** partially because i was really really hurt the way my husband talked to me**.
it’s not fun being adult and making the right decision. sometimes the child in me wishes that the dress they buy for me gets stolen…or ruined somehow that i don’t get to wear them. i wouldn’t mind wearing some extra heavy joora out of my jahaiz cloths but not something they are going to get…but at the end i will HAVE to wear what they will give me. and that hurts a lot…it’s my wedding. nothing EVER be like that day again. not even my mehndi or wedding anniversary or any other occasion for rest of my lift.
when i told my husband that if i don’t like the dress i will get really upset and i might even cry he got mad at me for being materialistic and said i am shallow for crying over dresses. and that hurt me even more. It has been so many months since i am trying to console my self. but it’s not working
i am not materialistic. Wedding dresses are just much bigger deal than everyone thinks it is

I’m starting to think that maybe that’s something bigger that needs to be addressed. It’s one thing for you not to get what you want, but he’s just being plain mean. It seems like your husband and his family aren’t even showing you any respect, or maybe I’m just reading the words wrong in my head, but I can’t think of a tone that this would sound like they mean well in.