inlaws choosing wedding dress :(

[yanzala]

Re: inlaws choosing wedding dress

@Deeba1234

Those who didn’t get to pick their outfit at what point did you see it for real in front of you?

i will see it one the mehndi day i guess when they will bring all the baree

@Paheli00

Good point actually!

For me personally, I paid for my own outfit/jewelry. I will also be paying for my own MU/hair. My dad gave a certain amount of money to my fiance and that money will be used to buy his outfit…and we will go shopping for it together.

I could be mistaken but I don’t think any bride expects HIS family to pay for her attire. I think generally it’s the brides parents who pay for it. But in cases like this, where there the groom’s family insists on paying for it (ie. the outfit “MUST” come from their side as per their tradition)…then it’s a bit unfair for them to not give the bride any say on the outfit. After all…in this specific situation OP is in…it’s not that she and/or her family isn’t willing to pay for it.

There’s a huge difference between the bride expecting the groom’s side to pay for her attire…versus the groom’s family insisting on paying for it b/c of their tradition.

in my case my in laws are going to be paying for the dress according to their budget and choice. honestly if i was the one paying for my dress i could have spent up to $5000 on it. call me stupid or anything, but that is how much i wanted a good wedding dress. also because i don’t care much about other stuff like jewelry. i don’t mind wearing artificual stuff as long as it looks pretty on me.
my husband has specifically told me they won’t be able to spend too much money on the dress. from what i understood not even fraction of $5000 that i am willing to pay.
My family will be paying for my husband’s outfit but he will chose it by himself because neither our family or his family has any tradition which deprive dulha from getting his choice.

@luvblingz

even if they don’t ask you- TELL them anyway

just because they haven’t asked doesn’t mean you can’t tell them what you like or find an “in” to influence them (such as your husband’s younger sister or cousin or something that can slyly help MIL choose what you want)

i would have if my husband’s hasn’t told me off so strongly against it . Just because i want a wedding dress of my choice doesn’t mean i am going to lose my self respect over it. To my understanding, i have a right over my husband to get a dress of my choice, if he is denying it then i am not going to fight for it. But he have a strong idea of how upset i am about it and if he is still not going to do anything about it then i will let it be that way. Honestly i feel like if i fight for it and even i do get my way i will still not be happy about it. Fighting for it will not give me the same happiness that i wanted out of the dress.