Dear Guppies,
my inlaws are about to come to give my bari for wedding… and as i’ve talked about it before in the other sections that, i’ve recently discovered a white “vitiligo” patch on the right side of my lips.. although its very small right now, but whenever i look in the mirror i notice only this mark and nothing else.. common psychology i guess!! but please give me some sincere advice what should i use to hide this mark… my fiance ofcourse knows about this but he asked me to stay quiet as mama will just get upset to know about this right now, we’ll tell her later , and he says to me that this isn’t visible at all.. its only me who’s soooo much worried over nothing!
please help! i’m from karachi pak. so would be better if you mention the product which is available here “EASILY” and not TOO EXPENSIVE also. please help help help!!
Why would your MIL be upset? You haven't done anything to cause it. It can happen to her. What if your MIL wakes up on the morning of the shadi witth something similar? Desis are ridiculous and quite disgusting, frankly.
Cover it with make-up and forget about it. Enjoy the day! It's not an 'ex-boyfriend'...it's a small patch on your skin!
Don't worry sabi..all will be ok. use loreal base as per ur skin tone...it shall b gud. Its natural to freak out over such little things just when the wedding is around the corner or in-laws r coming over since everyone wants to look the best:)
p.s. its disturbing to see such rude & quite uncivil comments like desis are ridiculous and quite disgusting frankly. plz. just don't make it worse for already stressed out brides to be.
Don't worry sabi..all will be ok. use loreal base as per ur skin tone...it shall b gud. Its natural to freak out over such little things just when the wedding is around the corner or in-laws r coming over since everyone wants to look the best:)
p.s. its disturbing to see such rude & quite uncivil comments like desis are ridiculous and quite disgusting frankly. plz. just don't make it worse for already stressed out brides to be.
But this is true. People, specially those living in Pakistan, still have brains that can only be compared to a house fly. Issues are raised for absolutely no reason at all. Very recently, I heard a guy's mother walking out of this household, where she went to "see" the prospective bahu, only because the girl's mother didn't have a light complexion. She didn't even wait to meet the girl and reasoned that even if girl is "gori", her kids can look like her nani.
Talk about being disgusting!
P.S. I don't mean to scare the OP. Just wanted to tell you that Pakistanis are very extremely rightfully called pure jerks! They have actually earned the right to be called this.
^Stop generalizing. All Pakistanis are not like that. Yes, there are those that are, but then again, which nationality does not have its share of boneheads?
Use a concealer. Anything that is thick and matches your skin will do the trick. I find stick foundations have good coverage.
Sure! It's your opinion and, probably, experience.
Perhaps, it's just some of unfortunate ones who have met so many of Pakistani crackheads, women specially, that we have begun generalizing and cannot be blamed for doing do. Don't know about you but I find North Americans far more tolerant and sensible. Again, talking with my personal experience, of course!
Sorry I don't want to freak u out but small vitiligo patches can become much larger and spread so u should see a dermatologist. I know cos one of my cousins and an uncle have vitiligo (in both cases it started off as just a small patch that was not that noticeable but became much larger later on). It can be easily covered up tho, dunno if u have Dermablend or Covermark products over there, they're both water resistant and desgined to cover up almost anything, check out the websites to see how effective they are. If it's a really tiny bit u could prob just use a normal one like L'Oreal Infallible Concealer :)
But this is true. People, specially those living in Pakistan, still have brains that can only be compared to a house fly. Issues are raised for absolutely no reason at all. Very recently, I heard a guy's mother walking out of this household, where she went to "see" the prospective bahu, only because the girl's mother didn't have a light complexion. She didn't even wait to meet the girl and reasoned that even if girl is "gori", her kids can look like her nani.
Talk about being disgusting!
P.S. I don't mean to scare the OP. Just wanted to tell you that Pakistanis are very extremely rightfully called pure jerks! They have actually earned the right to be called this.
Bit in red is shocking, what an idiot.. and agree I think we prob are a lot worse than most races when it comes to this stuff.. I sometimes think it's like dog breeding the way it all works, colour, weight, 'lineage' etc
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p.s. its disturbing to see such rude & quite uncivil comments like desis are ridiculous and quite disgusting frankly. plz. just don’t make it worse for already stressed out brides to be.[/QUOTE"]
^ You are right. I should have worded it better. Here’s another take– Many desis make ridiculous and disgusting remarks when it comes to a prospective/current DIL. The focus is on looks, wealth, and status when it should be on respect, values, education, morals, religious upbringing…
P.S. Visit “Life and Relationships” threads for examples of ridiculous and disgusting behavior displayed by desis during rishtas.
And I forgot to add…what was the fiance thinking when he said ‘mama will be upset’???
Wishkamar..that's absolutely terrible. Now imagine how that made the mother and daughter feel. That guy's mom should REALLY ask Allah for forgiveness because actions like that are sinful.
^ This is exactly what my father said, Naqsa, that this is the easiest and most convenient way of gathering sins in one's account. But one who'd have real fear of ALLAH won't commit such sins at the first place.
girl, just slap on some concealer and thats it. dont stress out about it. your flaws appear bigger to you than anyone else. get something that matches ur skin tone exactly and blend it in over the spot.
Sorry I don't want to freak u out but small vitiligo patches can become much larger and spread so u should see a dermatologist. I know cos one of my cousins and an uncle have vitiligo (in both cases it started off as just a small patch that was not that noticeable but became much larger later on). It can be easily covered up tho, dunno if u have Dermablend or Covermark products over there, they're both water resistant and desgined to cover up almost anything, check out the websites to see how effective they are. If it's a really tiny bit u could prob just use a normal one like L'Oreal Infallible Concealer :)
i think this is why she's worried. that the mother will freak out at what might happen later.
^ even if the patch is to spread (God forbid), what is REALLY worrying them? That people will talk? Or are they genuinely concerned for their DIL? I really hope that it's the latter.
i think this is why she's worried. that the mother will freak out at what might happen later.
Could be. Vitiligo isn't as bad if ure already on the lighter side. but the darker u are, the more apparent it is. I don't know much about it at all, except from what I have seen; I don't know what the physical health repercussions are, other than the aesthetics of it (which bring mental and emotional health into question).
I've seen quite a few black people with vitiligo and u literally see them go from dark brown to a milky white in tehir lifetime.
Hey maybe most desis wud love that. go to sleep brown wake up white.
please help help help!!
