Re: inferiority complex by inlaws_plz help
I haven't read through this whole thread in detail, but what struck me is that you feel that you are willing to try and "change" for your husband-to-be but you feel that you can't because of the restrictions from your parents. Becuase of this, you feel that you can't be what you thought your husband would like you to be.
I don't think that this is neccessarily anything to worry about. You only have 5 months until your marriage; frankly, if you do want to "change" even 5 months would not be enough.
But after that you will be out of your parents' authority, with your husband and his family instead. You will be free to be however you want to be at that point; and from the sounds of things, your husband is supportive of this too.
Many Pakistani girls go through the same situation and end up living very happily married lives - from what you've said, I don't see why you wouldn't find the same happiness after your marriage. Your situation is relatively normal.