Re: inferiority complex by inlaws_plz help
hey laji :)
reading your posts i really do think your husband wants what is best for you and for you to be more than just a housewife. you are really lucky in this respect, it is not uncommon that highly educated guys (desi and non) marry younger girls with not much education and just want them to look after the house and to show them off for their beauty.
clearly he enjoys talking to you and loves you for who you are but is also considerate of the fact that you will need to make changes and adjustments. and i don't think they are just for him (so that he is not embarrassed by you) but so that you feel confident and comfortable in your new surroundings. it sounds like you will have a lot of opportunities in your new environment and i'm sure you will want to take advantage of them not for him but for yourself.
also, he is sort of right about wanting you to do as much as you can now. it might seem overwhelming to you especially since you have no one to help you out, so i think you should talk to him about that. but right now you probably have more free time to do these things than you will after you are married.
don't worry about the english test, try your best, you can always take it again if you don't do well, just think of it as an experience.
same for the driving, learn as much as you can and don't worry about it. everything will fall into place when you get there. and you know, before i go travelling anywhere, especially for work, i study the map of the city and try and get a feel for it so that i don't feel like i am in an alien place when i arrive and know how to get to the main places - so i think it's good that he has asked you to do this!
just take it one step at a time, relax and enjoy yourself and don't feel that you will be letting anyone down if you make mistakes. it's all part of the learning process.
i would say that, don't think you need to change your character or personality, if a person is shy for example there is nothing wrong with that. and everything else is just learning new things!