Re: inferiority complex by inlaws_plz help
i agree with mama.
i think there may be a misunderstanding in what he wants from you. it may not be that he wants you to start dressing more 'modern' or 'western' and other things relating to how you look and just that he wants you to be able to fit in and be an independent women in some senses and not so reliant on him for everything.
he is a doctor - a professional - and no doubt he will mix in social circles where there are strong, educated, independent women and i think he probably just wants you to fit to this environment. you know this doesn't mean that you have to give up your conservative values if you don't want to (i don't know whether at the moment it's your choice or whether it's imposed by your family and environment), you can still dress in a modest way if you choose, it can be adapted to fit in which your new surroundings etc.
i'm sure you will change when you move anyway. many pakistani girls come to the west and fit in no problem even if they have come from a very different family life - learn how to drive, go shopping and take care of household affairs on their own etc etc.
usually it's just not feasible to keep living in the way you would have done back home, especially since your hubby is a doctor and will be busy with his career.
don't worry about it :)
speak to him again and explain how difficult it is for you to anything while you are still with your parents but that when you go and live with him you will do your best with his support. he needs to know that you will need his support and guidance in the beginning to adapt to your new environment and that he can't expect you to fit in overnight.
it would also be best to ask him what his life is like, what sort of things his sisters are used to doing in their daily lives etc, this way you will get a good idea of what kind of changes you will have to make.
be strong, inshallah everything will work out fine :)