How would you differentiate the two? I have found that with infatuation, there tends to be nothing of substance. It usually consists of a huge physical attraction/chemistry. Love seems to be much more than magnetism which is based solely on a physical level. It includes the physical aspect but also incorporates many other elements which combine to spell ‘compatibility.’
Often enough in life I have confused infatuation for love and I have been wrong each and every time. On the other side of the coin, I meet guys who get attracted to me who I want nothing to do with. Where and when do you give someone a chance to see where the relationship may go? How does one gage such emotions?..within a minute of meeting someone, a few days, a few months??? What is appropriate and what isn’t?
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*Originally posted by Deviliciousss: *
infactutaion- its a turn off when he burps
love- its CUTE that he burps..
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huh?
Waisay, "infactuation" is no word in english dictionary. Just because sweetpie made a typo, doesn't mean all of you should continue copy-pasting too. The word is 'infatuation'. You are welcome! :)
Infatuation is a feeling of being high on something, like you want to constantly be touchy-feely with the other person. Even when the person isn’t around, you are aroused merely thinking of being with them. I think love incorporates that but on a much deeper level where you are turned on by the other person’s intelligence, sophistication, integrity, simplicity, honesty, or whatever it may be that pushes your buttons. Love is a lasting feeling that develops and/or changes over time. It can probably take into account the fact that you can accept the other person “burping, farting, picking his nose” and what have you (as someone said above) but it has much more to do with understanding, compatibility, and the instinct of belonging with that person. Again though, infatuation seems to have its own good points and that feeling of being high on someone, even if it lasts only moments, is a wonderful feeling as well.
when ur in love or whatever u wana call it, theres no lust whatsoever… Infact, whenever i,m in love(one sided) with someone, lust just isnt there… infact, i,ve even wondered at times, that if i get to marry so n so, it would be hard/awkward in the beginning for me to umm, make love… dunno , its weird… i for some reason just fall in love with the personality and their other attributes, and respect the other person just too much…
majority of the times, i fall for someone cos of the way they carry themselves and their love for religion + their ideas + sense of humour etc. etc. (it could be that subconciously i,m attracted to them too), cos at the end of the day, i really wana get closer to religion and would love my wife to be religious who could pull my ears a bit and show me the right way too… and it really feels awkward even thinking about anything physical(as in lust). But i guess maybe that changes when the feelings become mutual… I wouldnt know. Hasnt happened yet.
Infatuation i reckon is just physical/other attraction that one feels, like the high school chicks going nuts over enrique
or maybe some new hot chick in ur class. I dont know. or some acquaintance that ur physically atrracted to.
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*Originally posted by KAKA-ATOM-BUM: *
when ur in love or whatever u wana call it, theres no lust whatsoever... Infact, whenever i,m in love(one sided) with someone,
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lolz but i agree wid you 100% rite hope u progress frm one sided to mutual
Kaka, I have had different experiences than you obviously. Whenever I have thought that I was in love, floating on cloud 9, it was actually always lust/infatuation which I confused with love. Even as recently as a month ago I thought that I was falling in love with a particular person but all it was was really lust and that feeling of constantly cuddling or touching that person physically. I can't explain it, it's just a weird, nice and cozy type of feeling when you're in the moment of it. Also in my experiences, I have met men who I think I am in love with but who only seem to have wanted me for physicality and nothing more although they would wear the disguise of being caring and being kind and honest. This is why I am always questioning why genuine, nice guys are so darned difficult to find. I am more than just a pretty face, I am intelligent, can converse on pretty much any topic of conversation with a wealth of knowledge, and have a lot of good traits but sadly men seem to see the physical aspects and forget everything else.
well the way u,ve put it,, yes i,d luv to hold them close and be very affectionate... what i meant by lust was liking the person for totally physical reasons... dont get me wrong,, i didnt mean to say that i wasnt physically attracted to them or didnt want to hold them close... by lust i meant the typical sleazy guy behaviour... i.e wanting to get into someone pants.
and yaar, u seem like a nice person. i,m sure u,ll find someone nice n sweet whos there by u till the end. Maybe ur asking for too much, or looking at the wrong places. figure out ur priorities, n inshallah things will work out soon.
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Again though, infatuation seems to have its own good points and that feeling of being high on someone, even if it lasts only moments, is a wonderful feeling as well.
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infatuation feeling that last forever is love,
that you really want to change yourself
love does'nt mean only to a girl, it can be to God, Noble Personalities, it's feeling.
dunno , its weird… i for some reason just fall in love with the personality and their other attributes, and respect the other person just too much…