What would u do If ur married to a guy whose loved by every one, is decent,cheerful, mature etc. but in your married relation he doesn’t care much?
He is indifferent, doesn’t appreciate much, your existence or non-existence doesn’t make much difference to him,he loves going out and continues his cheerful routine. With you, he enjoys the physical relation but you as you, he doesn’t show much interest and doesn’t care you’re happy or sad.
He doesn’t have any other problems, nor does he behave rudely. He is simply indifferent and inflexible in the marital relation. You don’t complain much. Sometimes if you’re depressed, he doesn’t ask the matter either.
Overall, he is loved by many is a favorite of lots, is caring towards family, provides financial support but you don’t really matter much to him. Suggestions to make it better or work it out are food, nothing to the negative off track please.
Different people have different ways of showing that they care. There are many men out there who are not the typical affectionate, touchy/feeley, emotionally sharing creatures that women would like for them to be. But they work hard, remain faithful to their spouses, provide for the family etc. Just b/c they're not showing their love in the way the wife wants them to show it....that doesn't mean that they don't care.
The couple has a active sex life so the husband is obviously physically attracted to the wife (and I'd assume he's not cheating on her). He's providing for the family and isn't rude/abusive towards the wife in any way.
What exactly leads the wife to believe that the husband doesn't care about her or love her? When he goes out, does he leave her home? Does he not make her a part of his social life? How does the wife expect him to show "appreciation"? Does he have a demanding job and/or work long hours?
Yes definitely talk to him and find out what's going on that he has this attitude. My husband, who is usually very attentive and cares about my needs and my happiness, for the last few weeks was ignoring anything I was saying and just busy with his work. Umm I gave him a piece of mind. I am sure he'll never ignore me from now.. at least for few months..
Yes definitely talk to him and find out what's going on that he has this attitude. My husband, who is usually very attentive and cares about my needs and my happiness, for the last few weeks was ignoring anything I was saying and just busy with his work. Umm I gave him a piece of mind. I am sure he'll never ignore me from now.. at least for few months..
What would u do If ur married to a guy whose loved by every one, is decent,cheerful, mature etc. but in your married relation he doesn't care much?
He is indifferent, doesn't appreciate much, your existence or non-existence doesn't make much difference to him,he loves going out and continues his cheerful routine. With you, he enjoys the physical relation but you as you, he doesn't show much interest and doesn't care you're happy or sad.
He doesn't have any other problems, nor does he behave rudely. He is simply indifferent and inflexible in the marital relation. You don't complain much. Sometimes if you're depressed, he doesn't ask the matter either.
Overall, he is loved by many is a favorite of lots, is caring towards family, provides financial support but you don't really matter much to him. Suggestions to make it better or work it out are food, nothing to the negative off track please.
Sugesstions
STOP LOOKING FOR MR PERFECT IN UR HUSBAND. He is a human after all.
If something is bothering u a lot, talk to him abt it. :)
Yes definitely talk to him and find out what's going on that he has this attitude. My husband, who is usually very attentive and cares about my needs and my happiness, for the last few weeks was ignoring anything I was saying and just busy with his work. Umm I gave him a piece of mind. I am sure he'll never ignore me from now.. at least for few months..
seems like you are describing my* namoona husband…lol… i have gone through some of your recent thread very briefly and i m surprised to see the striking similarities… …khair like others mentioned, talk talk and talk to him,* multiple **times… … ask lots of questions and get yourself involved in his daily routine… … what is his routine btw? … how much time do you spend together on daily basis (besides being in bed) ?
marriage should never be about seeking revenge or teaching your husband/wife a lesson
Yes definitely talk to him and find out what's going on that he has this attitude. My husband, who is usually very attentive and cares about my needs and my happiness, for the last few weeks was ignoring anything I was saying and just busy with his work. Umm I gave him a piece of mind. I am sure he'll never ignore me from now.. at least for few months..
marriage should never be about seeking revenge or teaching your husband/wife a lesson
Are you married? I supposed not. If someone expect you to listen to them when they talk or only talk to you when they want to.. don't care when you have something to say or want to share something, you need to talk to them about their attitude. Simple.
Are you married? I supposed not. If someone expect you to listen to them when they talk or only talk to you when they want to.. don't care when you have something to say or want to share something, you need to talk to them about their attitude. Simple.
Shehryaar, this has hints for you. Something to learn** ( Stay single my friend) **
lolss - your following reply that nothing to do with what I said -
if you teach your husband a lesson, next time you make a mistake, he will teach you a lesson, and then it will be your turn and its going to be endless spiral of not to pleasant encounters with each other
if a husband is angry at his wife he should tell her talk to her not leave the house and sleep at his friends place just to teach her a lesson.
Are you married? I supposed not. If someone expect you to listen to them when they talk or only talk to you when they want to.. don't care when you have something to say or want to share something, you need to talk to them about their attitude. Simple.
my cousin's husband was exactly like that. they were fine and all but he just at times minded his own business etc.. like he was a gd husband but was always indifferent and quiet.
soon my cousin realized that she will live with it as it was better than having a dominating and interfering typical husband who wants to know every thing abt his wife like her whereabouts etc...
now 7 yrs later, they have a newborn son and that has helped a lot. i guess it also comes with age. as the man matures, he may realize his 'wrongdoings', and make it up to his wife.
my cousin's husband was exactly like that. they were fine and all but he just at times minded his own business etc.. like he was a gd husband but was always indifferent and quiet.
soon my cousin realized that she will live with it as it was better than having a dominating and interfering typical husband who wants to know every thing abt his wife like her whereabouts etc...
now 7 yrs later, they have a newborn son and that has helped a lot. i guess it also comes with age. as the man matures, he may realize his 'wrongdoings', and make it up to his wife.
I am not married so my advice may not be applicable but ive learned through my life is that most people you meet are like that! i actually see nothing wrong with tgat, seems like he just wants to live a simple happy life. honestly if he is good to you, you should try to accept him for who he is, like i am not sure if having a conversation is going to change his indifference, however, maybe he will compliment you more or acknowledge you more so thats a good thing. i dunno, my personality is sort of like his and i honestly wish ppl accepted that, bc im an overall good person but im a bit more self absorbed, i dont wish to harm anyone though...and he really sounds like me.
He is just not the talk shalk sort of person, he avoids confrontations and basically just wants to have fun in his life whether anyone else wants or not. Even if wifey is upset, that doesn't change a thing, he will carry on his fun plans with some one else. It's not even that the wife complains a lot or is a depressing soul, a bit of empathy or just hearing some one out or just showing interest in them, in their past, in what and how they would like things to turn out isn't too much to ask for. What bothers a wife? Is she happy or not? What she wants? Why is she hesitant of you? Why is she scared of communicating with you? Why is she acting the way she is? Does she want to talk out something ? Does she want a mutual consent on something? Am I doing something to cause her distress? These are basic questions one can give thought to or at least go through once in a while. Maybe she too wants to have fun with you but has a lot on her mind that she wants to settle first to be emotionally empty and then move on.
…khair like others mentioned, talk talk and talk to him,* multiple **times… 
… ask lots of questions and get yourself involved in his daily routine… … what is his routine btw? … how much time do you spend together on daily basis (besides being in bed) ?