Re: Indifference
^ Firstly, as I said before, there are many men out there who're not the "talking" type. It may sound ridiculous to us, but that's just their personality.
Secondly, so in this situation, WHY is the wife hesitant and scare of communicating with the husband? Has he ever abused her any way?
I understand that the husband is not initiating conversations regarding the wife's feelings. But what is preventing the wife from telling him that she needs to talk to him and sharing her feelings/thoughts with him?
At the end of the day, men aren't mind readers. If the wife has shared her feelings/thoughts with him and he still shows no concern....that's another issue. But if the wife herself hasn't taken steps to actually tell him how she feels....then how can he be blamed?
Re: Indifference
Seems like your husband and my husband are twins. I felt exactly the same way, i thought may be he doesnt care enough. Even if i ask him what was the color of the dress i was wearing yesterday , he wont be able to tell. I would try talking to him about it and he will become all defensive saying what is wrong what more do you want and things like that and then for one day he will become very love dovey and after sometime all will become the same. But after six years of marriage i have realized that its not that he doesn't care much or he is indifferent but that he doesn't know how to show it and he is one of those ppl who can not understand talking in riddles i have to be really straight forward to make him understand for example previously it was like this:
Husband: i have invited ppl over for dinner.
Me: but i am not feeling well
Husband: okkay we can take them out to some restaurant.
Me: no no if you have already invited them i can try pulling it of somehow (thinking that he will think that it was really sweet of me to offer to cook even when i am sick and he will insist that we go out)
Husband: okkay if you say so (dang!!!!)
Now it is more like this
Husband: My friends might swing by for dinner.
Me: i am not feeling well.
Husband: okkay we will go out to eat
Me: thank you so much.
or previously if it was my birthday or anniversary, i would start asking his opinions about things i would like him to buy me thinking he will get the clue but it never worked, now i just say to him....you are buying me this and this for my brithday.
It is as simple as that. Some ppl are not those overly romantic creatures we see in movies. Cut him some slack. Its really nice when they do such things by themselves but if their brain is not functional that way, don't let it harm ur relationship. Don't expect him to be a psychic, be very open about ur feelings with him. Rather than expecting him to know or waiting for him to ask, tell him. and last but not least think about all the positive aspects.
Re: Indifference
This description fits me too !
must be an arranged marriage scenario I tell ya :)