i believe once u get committed or married the guy becomes overly possesive n bossy…to such an extent k gurls/women forget wot they actually were and start living a new life…i have been an independent gurl all my life an am really worried of the fact tht i wont be able to take ‘orders’ frm my to be husband…
kia karoooon :S?? do u guys feel da same way!!!
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not every guy is this way
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^exactly...
There is no such thing as taking orders from your husband. You do things because of your love for him.
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ya, Angel Eyes is right, not all men are possesive or bossy, i've always been independent and my husband respects that, just as i respect his independance.
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There is no such thing as taking orders from your husband. You do things because of your love for him.
and he'll understand if u choose not to do certain things for him...cuz of HIS love for you. :D
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^^ Did I detect a subtle hint of sarcasm?
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There is a simple solution to your fear....dont get married?
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^^ I heard dat!!
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hehehe look marraige is a gamble. If you know the guy and understand each other, it could be a gamble worth playing...because you would be more willing to compromise and make sacrifices for each other. But...if you DONT know the guy.....then may I suggest you get to know him in pre-marraige/engagment period....just so you know exactly how much you may have to "change yourself". Make an informed decision.
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^ Gamble is gamble. It doesn’t matter that you know a guy or not. Win and loose has equal chances in gamble no matter if you know how to operate a slot machine or this is the first time you are operating one, doesn’t matter much. Knowing how to operate the slot machine (i.e. to know a guy) will make you FEEL comfortable but it does not raises your chances of winning :)
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in process:chai:
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Not all men are like that, if he truly loves his wife and he got marrried for all the right reasons then he will care for her and support her every step of the way and if hes wise then he will understand that marraige isnt just a simple action that happens where the man says yes and the woman says yes, but its a life committment and for it to last till death do em apart they have to co operate with each other. and it dont mean that the woman does everything and the man just sits home like a potato and do nothing whilst the wife is at factory earning hard cash. shame on those who are like this
plus, ppl should also take into consideration who they get married to in terms of wealth, family background, beauty and religion coz all these factors play a major role in a happy and successful marraige.
plaus what canni said pre marraige investigating your partner and their way of life and your way of life and if you can live up to it then take the next step and if not call it off.
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You should discuss these things with your potential spouse about this and see how he feels or what type of person he is.
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hmmmm i know n agree wid all these suggestions.....when i had not started my job i used to think k i will serve my life 4 my husband but since i have started working i hate my changed views of lookin married life as sacrificing ur life for ur husband :O
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:halo:
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Sound analogy. 
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You definitly need to have a good understanding with the guy you marry - do not commit to anything unless your at least 90% sure that he understands your lifestyle,habits,attitude and beleifs - dat way he cant moan later...
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Rah man i cudnt eva imagine my hub ordering me around. He isnt like that anyway and but if he suddenly did hav a personality transplat and started bossing me around im so strong minded the bossing around wouldnt last 5 minutes!
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lolzzzzzzzzz yh it is funny how men boss u about and they tend to try and tame down their wives who they know r feisty
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its one thing if he does a 180 right after marriage, for xample, goes from loving when u wear jeans to not letting u leave the house w/o a abaya (just an xample :halo: ) but sometimes girls (and guys) DO change after htey marry and there’s nothing wrong with that..
nothing bad abt little changes to make ur partner happy..so what if they forget how they were beforehand.. yes, there is a line but you have to decide, waht’s worth fighting for and what’s not..
if you’ll put up a fight over** every minor issue**, screaming “i’m an independent woman, you cant boss me around!” well, don’t count on hving a successful marriage.