i’m all for not making kids dependent on adults for basic things …
i prefer to let them learn from trial n error …but there are certain things about what i can’t decide if kids are responsible enough
like for example …none of my kids is allowed to take shower himself …eldest is 6…everyday i give them a massage n then shower afterwards …towards the end i let them take the shower …so they feel the ‘independence’ …but taking shower all on their own …i never let them do …
now the question is …at what age a child is considered responsible enough for taking the charge …
will he be able to do thorough cleaning
isn’t it dangerous …
i’m way too sleepy to make any sense …so please don’t make fun
hope to see some practical responses…
i guess u can do ur cleaning and then let them pretend they are doing the rest of it themselves?
there is an age when kids start to assert their independence, usually when they start to say " mein khud he" :D
i'm scared of letting them go in water unsupervised ....so i wanted to know what's the right age for a child to be independent for hygine etc. without his amma keeping an eye...!!!
To be quite honest, it must be very embarrassing for a 6 yr old to be getting help from his mother for bathing. You should have trained him when he was 4.
suroor....even the yougest one is at the stage of 'main khud ' :)
my concern is ....when i really should let them do it without my help......it already takes at least an hour to get all 3 ready ....n its a hassle in mornings sometimes
funguy.....training is quite a seperate issue ....he can tell you the right order for taking bath without a mistake .....problem is ....how can i be satisfied that he can actually do it perfectly....!
I was 4 or 5 when my elder brother threw me in deep water at the swimming pool. At 6 I could beat him and all his peers in butterfly, back, breast and free style. I could have learned it earlier had my parents let me go swimming earlier.
Afia Baji, I am all about independence. Haven't you seen Finding Nemo? The later you let 'em go, the later they will learn and eventually you HAVE to let 'em go.
As far as shower, you can let them take it and then inspect if they have really cleaned up or not.
hmmm....AJ.....he goes swimming ....n the younger one too .....but that is always supervised...
but well, seems like i'm stressing over nothing .....:)
may be i should let him have a go .....n try to remain calm when he comes out with too much shampoo in his hair or a tiny dab of tooth paste on his chin ...:)
... just make him go back and clean it up. Soon enough getting him into the shower will be your problem. You will be happy with the shampoo in his hair.
Afia bajee it depends completely on your children. Some might be able to take care of themselves at 5, others at 6 still others at 10 or later. However, you do play a major part in their upbringing. You can let the kids do their little chores on their own, and they will learn eventually to do more and more for themselves. I dont think theres a "set" age for anything. But dont be worried if he comes out of the shower with a bit of shampoo in his hair or soap behind his ears. If you dont let him do stuff for himself, he wont have a chance to learn. Good luck.
But from what I have read by you, you're a wonderful mommy. :)
And I can relate the persistence kids show on 'maiN khuddi'. Misbah does not sit in a high chair, wants to eat from the same kind of plates and glasses we are using and she will not even let us serve her, she thinks she can handle the big serving spoon.
